Hello, Im getting very frusterated with myself, I recently had to file bankruptcy, and im giving up my new truck. I live with my boyfriend of 11 months and i love him dearly. I just don't know how to tell him, we are very open and honest to eachother but this last week I just can't seem to get the courage to tell him. I don't know why! can anyone help me out on this? I feel i need to tell him because i feel like im lieing to him and im sure he thinks something is going on cause ive been on a emotional roller coaster...should i even tell him right away?
please no rude answer or remarks
2007-01-31 02:26:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, your advice is great thankyou, well tonight when he gets off work i will tell him, it will be nice to get it off my chest! thankyou for giving me a boost with this, i need all the luck i can get ;) it will be a test of love thats forusre
2007-01-31 02:46:25 · update #1
The sooner you tell him, the easier it will be on you. He can probably tell something is wrong already and maybe he'll be relieved to know it's not him. Don't let him wonder...just get it off your chest.
2007-01-31 02:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you are going through but i sure it is hard to tell him. One of the reasons you cant tell him is because you are probably afraid you might loose him. If he really does love you and it seems like he does if you have been together for 11 months, then i am sure that he would understand and you and him can work through this together. So take a deep breath and wait till a time that is right and when you both are not stressed and just tell him. I am sure everything will be fine in the end. Good Luck!
2007-01-31 02:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by Journalism Geek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You live with him and you live in a world of trust. It's the trust that binds all good relationships and for you to keep the trust flowing, you need to tell him the truth. It's hard I know but it's going to have to be told at one point or another and it's better coming from you now than him finding out at a later time without you telling him.
Keep the trust flowing and break it to him slowly, it might help but he has to know. If he's a real boyfriend and he loves you, he will understand and even though it might take a bit of doing, you'll both be the better for it.
Good luck.
2007-01-31 02:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that what you are going through isn't shameful. Bankruptcy issomething a lot of people go through. The fact is you could use some support. I'm sure when you tell him, he will be supportive and concerned.
If you are still nervous, ask him what he thinks about bankruptcy. I think you'll find he agrees. He may want to help you not go bankrupt.
In any case, just know you're not a bad person or a loser for doing it. You're just someone going through a tough time.
2007-01-31 02:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him because he;s gonna find out sooner or later and something like bankruptcy stays on your record or credit report for awhile ,lets say u 2 get married and wanna buy a home u have to tell them (or they will find out)you don't wanna shock him LIKE THAT DO YOU .I would just tell him ,its not that bad people do it all the time and maybe it will give you a chance to build up your credit or a least save up some money in the future anyways good luck and be honest
2007-01-31 02:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by outlawlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should tell him. If it helps write it in an email and explain ur having a tough time dealing and are uncomfortable talkin about it so thats y ur writing the email. Im sure that will help cuz thats what i do when things r too tough to talk about. good luck
2007-01-31 02:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Angelina A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're afraid to tell him because you're thinking he'll have a low opinion of you, then want to break things off.
He may be angry at first, but he may also understand the circumstances that financially put you in the hole.
Just tell him. You may feel like a failure, but getting something like that off of your chest sure beats having all that weight on your shoulders.
2007-01-31 02:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it looks like you have a test to see how much he really loves you. You just have to muster the courage and go tell him. Be completely honest. If he really loves you then he will help you work through it. But you really should tell him as soon as possible.
2007-01-31 02:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by El Castigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your bankruptcy have a significant effect on him? or on your living situation?
I would sit him down and tell him - he might be able to help you out or think of something you haven't. Remember, strong relationships share their problems and work through them together.
If you love each other, he will try to help and it won't effect how he feels about you.
Good Luck
2007-01-31 02:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by SlickNick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell him right away! If my girlfriend didn't tell me these things, then I would believe I'm not important enough to her, because she doesn't come to me with her problems. If you love him and he loves you, honesty is the best way to go. That way, the trust will always be there between you two.
2007-01-31 02:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Isaac C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋