At a place I worked at there was a young guy and an old guy. The young guy had just started up a relationship and the old guy would always joke about how the new girlfriend was going to start working on getting him to marry her. The old guy was predicting how it was going to go down and it happened the same way.
First she would have sex with him and just happen to spend the night. Then she would start leaving things over there (toothbrush, etc). Then she would start spending time with his mother (who would then start pestering her son to "get serious" with this girl. Then she would talk about how stupid it is for them both to be paying rent. Then she would have some sort of financial hardship (in this case she lost her job) that would cause her to lose her place. Once she moved in the sex would slow down and marriage was expected.
I left the company before I found out what happened, but how could the old guy know the pattern if it isn't an actual pattern?
2007-01-31 02:21:30 · 17 answers · asked by parkdad73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that sly old goat has been around the block a few times.
no two people or relationship is the same.
He got lucky? maybe he could tell the gurl was a golddigger and had been used hiself a time or two
2007-01-31 02:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily a pattern, but simply the logical order of things. If you are dating some one the desired result is sex, and emotional security. Once that security has started to establish, you gradually head in the direction of a magnanimous relationship. As you develop a stronger emotional bond, sex does lessen.
It is like me telling you, in the morning, the sun is going to come up, then a little later in the day you will see it higher in the sky, followed by darkness.
The old guy knew the way things would unfold because experience comes with age. He has seen the natural order of things, he has witnessed human nature. But women don't have a pattern they follow to get a guy to marry them. It is an intricate dance between two partners to find out if they are compatible, it is mutual, and in the end they are married, or find they arn't compatable, and go off to find a new partner, and dance a differnt dance.
On a side note, Astrology is baised on alot of the same principal, if it is broad enough, people will see what they want to see out of it. and it will appear to be correct, and true.
2007-01-31 02:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years and are getting married in April. His mother has been dead since he was 12, so that part never factored in. We did move in together because it seemed to be more cost-efficient and convenient (not because either of us had any financial hardship), but damn - why do people have to ask such stupid questions when they know that there are always exceptions to every pattern? You're making it feel like all women want to do is "trap" men. If that was so true, why have we been perfectly happy for 10 years in an unwed relationship? We just waited for a good reason to get married. Now that I am having his baby, we both feel that is a good enough reason. People can be logical, right?
2007-01-31 02:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you really think the girl lost her job deliberately? No, it is not a pattern. Maybe the guy knew one or both of them. My husband and I didn't have sex until after he had moved in with me. That isn't in the 'pattern'. I had no financial hardship, I make more than he does. That is not in the 'pattern'. Nor do I know anyone who does fit this 'pattern'. Maybe the old guy got lucky. If he said the same about everyone eventually he had to get it right.
2007-01-31 02:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actually, my bf has stayed over to my house more than I've stayed at his, and that's because where he works is closer to where I live, so then he doesn't have to walk as far. He has a few things here so he doesn't have to lug them around. And he actually asked me to move in with him once he gets his own place. I would never try to force a guy that didn't want to be with me to be with me. That's just too stupid to talk about.
2007-01-31 02:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope there is no pattern..but then again I don't think a pattern is needed and I also do not need or want to "get" a guy to marry me lol :)
In my personal experience the guys have wanted to get married and I haven't wanted to.
2007-01-31 02:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The writing is just on the wall for certain patterns in a relationship.
Wisdom at its best can see through games people play.
2007-01-31 02:32:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the plot to a sitcom. It is a typical generalized scenario that has been joked about for ages.
2007-01-31 02:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn !! u described my past relationship.. but the one moving house was me. But after sex slowed down I kinda lost interest and broke up. (im 22 she was 27). But Yeah, I think you said the steps to marriage. ha ha ha
2007-01-31 02:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Luis Rene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that was how it happened for him. That is what happened with my husband and I , if you leave out the part about meeting his mother, and he brought up the part about both of us paying rent
2007-01-31 02:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋