I am a straight female and I just found out that my potential roommate is a lesbian. I have nothing against this, however, I've never interacted with one or know of any before her. Is this a good idea? Your answer is much appreciated.
2007-01-31 02:21:23 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
of course its a good idea. you will become much more tolerant and well rounded by befriending someone different than yourself.
chances are you have already been friends with a lesbian or bisexual female. i have heard 1 out of 10 people are gay or bisexual. that doesnt mean they all live that lifestyle, but the tendencies are there.
i'm glad you dont 'have anything against it' an open mind is the first step. if her lifestyle makes you uncomfortable, set some mutual boundaries. good luck to you and your roommate.
2007-01-31 02:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you are obviously a bit nervous seeing as you've never known any...
there is no need to be worried, anxious, nervous....
She is still the same person she was before you found out. The difference is that she prefers women. It doesn't change the person she is, nor should it influence your friendship. They are no different to others... they are normal human beings, with souls, personalities, hearts... a preference for something shouldn't put you off. Its like this... would you not want to stay with someone cos they prefer the colour blue to red? its the same principle here... just cos she prefers women, theres no need to think of her differently, in fact, i've found out that lesbians can make the best friends!
If you are still feeling unsure, then, if she does become your roomate, just tell her that you are straight, and she wont make moves on you, if thats what you're worried about.
Im sure things will be fine, you have absolutely no need to worry... enjoy each others company, and you'll probably soon find yourself with a new best friend!
2007-01-31 02:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anfieldgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife had a lesbian roommate and never had a problem. They were roommates for over five years.
Her roomie was also videographer at our wedding. Very nice, very friendly, lots of fun.
I'm an extremely conservative guy, but I don't assume people are a "certain way" by their sexual preference. You should be fine unless she is interested in you specifically. That would be the only reason why it would not be a good idea.
Look at it this way. Suppose your roommate was a straight guy. Same possible problem, right? Or not. Just depends on your viewpoint.
2007-01-31 02:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How well do you know this girl, is the question. You need to know who she is, because some lesbians can be very agressive with flirting. Some of them also come across as being very dominant. I have several lesbian friends and they know to respect me as a heterosexaul. I am married, happily, and i love them as friends but it doesn't go any further than that. They respect and understand that. Just as she will want to be respected as a lesbian, she also has to respect you as a straight woman. i would talk to her about this before you make her your roommate. Make sure you both are on the same page!!
2007-01-31 02:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by Who Dat Chic!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm straight as well and I don't think you have any reason to be apprehensive about living with "one." Just because her sexual preference is different from yours does not make her a bad person. Not every lesbian wants you. If you have been living with her for a while and there was no problems before why would there be now? Don't find an excuse to move out. That's lame.
2007-01-31 02:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by AmberChar24 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm an open lesbian... WE ARE REGULAR PEOPLE LMAO seriously as long as her sexual orientation does not define her. As long as she pays her share of rent and utilities on time you have no real concerns, it shouldn't matter. I'm 100% sure she's not asking anyone is its a good idea to move in with you because your straight. Honestly if you feel like this will really be a problem for you, do not move in you don't want to put yourself in a situation where you are not comfortable.
2007-01-31 02:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kee-Kee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't act like there is something wrong with her. This is going to be good for you. FIrst off, most lesbians wont make a move on a straight woman. Secondly, you can become a little more aware of other peoples lifestyles.
2007-01-31 02:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Missy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be much of a problem. I think when most people think of homosexual people, because they're defining the group by their sexual orientation, they somehow think that homosexuals are way more into sex and seeing other people as sex objects than heterosexuals are. This is not actually the case; homosexuals are much like the rest of us, and a kind and responsible lesbian probably wouldn't treat you any differently than a kind and responsible man would. You shouldn't have anything to worry about, so just ignore it and get on with your life.
2007-01-31 02:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just a person. just because she is a lesbian doesn't mean that communication is different. she is just like you she just likes to sleep with women. you probally have known lesbians in your life they just didn't display that part of themselves to you, you never know. if you are worried about her hitting on you the chances are more than likely slim to none, because that is another false conception that people have of lesbians is that they sleep with everyone and they want everyone. she probally has a certain type of girl that she is intrested in and it may not be you so don't get nervous and think she is going to jump on you in the middle of the night. it shouldn't matter though that she is a lesbian, if she pays her part of the rent and the rest of the bills then that is what you should be concerned with.
2007-01-31 02:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by kid on the block 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always good to open yourself up to new people and experiences, that is how you live a rich and fulfilling life. Don't be one of those people that thuinks that just because your a woman and she is a lesbian that she is going to want your body. She might, but that wouldn't matter, would it? You learn alot about youirself by learning about other people and ways of life. You should look forward to this as an opportunity not to be missed not an opportunity to be dismissed!! Have a good 2 !!
2007-01-31 02:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋