Is there any way I can stop this!?

Question

OK, let me first state that my girlfriend has Bi Polar, I am only stating this because I have heard and I'd like to see from some other people if they know it true or not, that sometimes.. a person with bi polar suffer from "mania" for several weeks to months, making them not act like themselves and make un-wise decisions..

Now I will tell you what is going on, recently my girlfriend's brother has came to live with her, and her mother. Her brother has been into heavy drugs, and has been telling my gf how cool they are and that she ought to try them out, thankfully she still her self a bit and have said No, im good.. However.. now ever since her brother and his friends who are complete losers come to the house, they have been influencing her, she acts like a totally different person around them, it somewhat makes me mad that she cannot just be herself. Ontop of that, I am not saying ganja is horrible, however she is now mentally addicted to it.. wants it every single day.

If she doesn't have it she gets very cranky, or bored. We used to be able to relax and watch some movies during the weekends she sleep here, but now she finds it very boring. Not like her.. she loves watching movies at home rather than theater. These people are making her want to go out and party.. I can say I've been there and done all of that, however if I say anything to her about partying she gets angry and says I am no fun, Im paranoid.. or " you're not my dad!" For a while I was even worried she'd want to sleep around because of his friend's influences.. all his friends are man whores and sluts.. but she said she doesn't want to. But for three weeks we were broken up, now we're in an open relationship.. it is just very much not like her! We love eachother very much and she shows that to me, but when we are not alone it is like she puts up a show the most. I recall during the summer something like this happening. We had broken up and she got back with her emotionally abusive ex

who cheated on her, but she had fallen in love with before she was with me.. we had broken up at that time because her brother made us, long story. Well I'd be over there all the time with her, because she sort of wanted me around.. didn't act like herself then either.. drank too much, had sex with him.. ( now she cries about that and thinks she is a horrible person, he convinced her he loved her) She even cut her self.. that was three months over the summer. I kept telling her how horrible he was but she didn't want to believe me, she'd tell me she still loved me but because of her brother she had no choice. Well, he ended up leaving her lying and saying it was because his probation officer told him he had to.. ended up being he was cheating on her all over again. After her being heart broken she ended up acting like herself again.. What can I do and what is with this I KNOW THIS IS LONG STORY BUT I NEED HELP

Answer 1

U can help her most by being Ur self. As U stated & it's part of the bipolar disorder is mood changes. It's hard to deal with. Don't get on to her too much, U got to learn to bite Ur tongue at times. Be supportive & try not to be littler her or her brother. Blood IS thicker than water. What I'm saying is that U will run her off if U complain about who she hangs with & what they do. Ur in a tuff situation. I hope this helps U or gives U something 2 think about.