Parents of teenage girls-how does...?

Question

...your daughter dress for school? I have a 16 yr old girl and she dresses very modestly but stylish, but some of the girls at her school are half naked and we live in a cold climate. What's up with that? Do parents ever say NO to their kids anymore? And PS how can the boys be expected to concentrate on school work with these half naked tarts about?

I say that about the boys because I also have a teenage son, and he's always coming home talking about how hot this girl or that girl is...i know that boys will always look at girls but if their ar$es are hanging below their skirts it might take a normal red blooded boys mind of geometry!

and if your read carefully i said that my daughter dresses fine, modestly and appropriately. Its some of the other girls that concern me.

Answer 1

My girls dress in jeans and t-shirts. The school has a "dress code" of sorts. No bare bellies; no halter tops; skirts must be a certain length; etc. No t-shirts with beer or cigarette companies on them; no shirts with cuss words; etc. No tattoos (showing); piercings are limited to ears and small nose ones. Nothing that dangles. The boys code is basically the same for the shirts, but they make sure they don't wear the pants they have to hold up. Also the "gothic style" of huge bottom pants with chains is forbidden. I say you need to review your school dress code and then ask why girls aren't being made to adhere to it. Go to a PTA meeting and voice your opinion as well. My girls aren't allowed to leave the house with boobs popping out or butt cheeks showing. If I don't find it appropriate, they are sent back to change.

**EDIT NOTE:** Even the school recognizes that the way a girl dresses is a distraction to the boys. That's why they try to enforce the rules. You can't the blame the boys (not that you did but the other commentor) for nature. I am sure that if the tables were turned and a good looking young man with a tight ab wore no shirt into class that the girls would be distracted as well) Stick to your guns mom & attend that PTA meeting (or better yet, a School Board Meeting)

Answer 2

Parents are not around to say NO anymore. I have noticed a lot of moms are very detached from their children, they do not bond with them as they once did. Women today do more, men always did too little, and now we are paying a BIg PRICE. If you must work, which most people have to then you have to make sure you in fact DO IT ALL or at least give that child the attention it should have. It is so sad that we neglect our kids and have parents who would rather be their girlfriend than their mom. Girls should not strut around and act like chickens on the market to be fingered. There are so many men who love this naked tart syndrome.

Answer 3

Teen years pass.But that doesn't mean you should let your daughter do something which she will later pay for with her health.If she goes half-naked in cold climate,it may have serious consequences for her ovaries and kidneys.Haven't you explained that to her when she was 11-12?I was explained that before I went into puberty and now I dress fashionable but warm enough.Is your daughter responsible?If she isn't,you have more important issues than her outward appearance.At 16 she should be aware of all the illnesses she can catch by walking half-naked.

Answer 4

If your daughter is dressed appropriately be happy and don't be too concerned about the others. There will always be someone that doesn't dress the way we think they should even in adult life. Boy's will look that is a given, but if they are raised right, looking will be as far as it goes.

Answer 5

If it bothers you that much, talk to the principal and/or superintendant and go over the dress code outlined in the student handbook with him or her and have the principal give you their opinion on what is and is not acceptable. Mention that the way some of the young ladies are dressed seems to be distracting your son from his work and you don't want his grades to suffer.

Answer 6

While I do agree with you that parents should teach their daughters how to be nicely dressed without looking trashy, I don't agree with your last statement. I don't think the way a girl dresses should be blamed for a boy's lack of attention in school. That is ridiculous. I also don't think it is fair to refer to a teenage girl as a "tart". Obviously this is a whole societal issue, where are girls are bombarded with unrealistic body images and they are trying to emulate that. They need parents to teach them how to be secure enough in themselves, to not think that dressing a certain way makes them more desireable to men. Moreover secure enough to not live their lives to seek and meet men's approval.

Answer 7

I don't have children yet but my husband and I are Muslims and our daughter is going to be dressed very modestly. I'm also going to make her wear the abaya, hijab, and niqab(traditional Muslim woman dress) to school.

Answer 8

My 14 yr old step-daughter wears nothing but A.E. and Abercrombie. I havent seen her wear anything "hoochie" yet. She's a good student and an athelete, so she takes her appearance seriously. Thats the way it should be.