I know people say there is no such thing as a perfect man. But I think I have found the perfect man for me. He tells me he cares for me and I really care for him. But I have been hurt before by guys that have said that same line. How do I know this one's for real?
2007-01-31 02:04:43 · 22 answers · asked by Babie Sue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is normal to feel apprehensive about entering into a new relationship without the fear of getting hurt once again. My advice to you would be to not just believe in words alone.. Pay attention more to the actions of the person who proclaims his love for you. Does this person care about your feelings, your dreams, your values? Is the relationship based on sex only or is it also based on mutual respect and friendship. Does this person look out for your well being? Ask yourself these questions as you observe your relationship with this person as it evolves. In the meantime, take the relationship at a slow pace, take your time to get to really know this person, give the relationship time to grow. Time will tell you what you need to know. Good luck to you!
2007-01-31 02:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people will say there is no such thing as the perfect man, but to the individual woman there is to her, it is what you see in him that you did not see in your other relationships and it can be tough when you have been hurt, but not every guy is the same, he may act like the last guy you were with but chances are he is not and could care less about the other guy if he is a real gentleman and only care about you and what you think. You want to know how do you know this relationship is going to be a real one well, we you and him get along, sort out your differences when you don't, when he accepts you for who you are and is ready for a relationship as well, just take it slow in this one and enjoy the ride, you will be glad you did.
2007-01-31 10:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you think he is the perfect guy because he tells you that he "cares for you" ?? I hope you are basing your perfect rating on more than that. Additionally, you won't know it's for real until you give it a go. Thats the thing about life and love, no matter how many times you fail you always have to pick yourself back up and try again. If I were you I would go for it, just don't rush into it. Let it happen slow and naturally and more importantly when the time is right you won't have to question whether it is right and real because you will know it is in your heart!
2007-01-31 10:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah the age old question, to trust or not to trust. All you can do is be yourself. Take your time. Let your feelings be known tell him that you really enjoy being together but that you've been hurt badly in the past. My guess is if he's as perfect as you think, he too has been hurt, an will be willing to go slower. Trust me opening up to your fears together is a great way to find out how serious you both are for each other. Have fun and don't be afraid to open up. An I wish you luck, we all need someone to love, trust and rely on.
2007-01-31 10:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by neferititti72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. I wanted to marry my husband the moment I met him and he says that same, but we waited and discovered one another. We didn't get married until 4 years later, but we started to plan our wedding in the middle of our first year together.
To me, he is the perfect man. He is the perfect man "for me". So if you feel that he is the perfect man for you, then explore the relatonship. Work on it, don't let little things come in bewteen you two. Communicate, communicate, communicate, always leave the lines of communication open. That is the start to a great relationship. Because you have been hurt, let him know that, let him know that you feel for him, but you want to make sure that you don't get hurt again. Just take the relationship slow, discover one another, but most of all have fun.
2007-01-31 10:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Army Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont know if its real yet.
men will say the most perfect things but isnt ironic that the good ones are few and far between--they know what to say--when they want something
if this guy seems good to you go for it all the way put your heart into it--if it doesnt last at least you tried right?
good luck
2007-01-31 10:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by amazing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To truly know the intentions and/or thought process of another it takes time. I would suggest just taking your time. Don't do anything to serious in the relationship right away and get to know him better. If he is a good guy he will understand and be willing to do the same in order to get to know you.
2007-01-31 10:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Fayt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow and in time you will know. It's normal to be cautious after being hurt by others. In time you WILL know if he is the one. Good Luck
2007-01-31 10:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for that you have to wait for a couple of years for the newness to wear off and you see him in his wonderfully imperfect state and if you both really still care about each other then he's for real.......married to mine for 5...been together many more years.....still get butterflies......he's perfectly imperfect....and i love him to death
2007-01-31 10:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mum3grls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him to the test test him in everything from household cleaning to the extreme. Keep a close eye on him and study his reactions very very good.
2007-01-31 10:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋