I am in my 20's and feel like it's almost impossible to find a Christian guy to go out with, i'm worried cuz i feel like i'm not "good enough" for some(i listen to pop music and am worried they'll think it's wrong,) but yet i don't wanna date a really loose guy that drinks and smokes but "goes to church once in a while". Feel like i'm stuck in between classes... Not the extreamlly stricked Christian...but not totally given into the world. Sorry, i don't even know what i'm asking but just had to get that off my chest:)
2007-01-31 01:58:51 · 43 answers · asked by shine_on 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
At least for that particular reason you are asking the question...You should know that you know who you really are...otherwise you'd be going out dating anyone with no doubt in your mind. I am not sure there is a rule to what Christians should be since Christianity is about your relationship with the lord and not anyone else. Just because you listen to pop music does not make you any less of a christian.....Christianity is a journey and every step of the way God reveals himself to you to be conformed to his character....We are not there yet...but u can bet we r not where we used to be!!!! it is a process...SO my advice...Stop beating yourself down by what you are doing and look at the bigger picture...God knows ur heart and He will Fulfill your desires. If your conviction is to be with a christian guy...WAIT.. patience is the answer....You will not be happy otherwise. Don't build castles that you will have to break down in the long run.....i.e don't form relationships that wont work for u eventually.....Be proud of you and Know he (GOD) luvs you too much to let you wonder alone. " He who has begun his good work in you ...will see it to its completion"..." He wont leave you nor will he forsake you" Much Love and prayers.
2007-01-31 02:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by LA lakers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 20 girl! You have plenty of time, you have your whole life ahead of you. I am a Christian and I married a Christian man. I applaud you in wanting to marry just a Christian man - I believe it would be much harder to keep your faith if you didn't marry a Christian. People can say you can change a man after you marry however it wouldn't be the man's choice - therefore that isn't true religion. My advice, just wait and pray! I have a girlfriend that is around 30 years old. She prayed a million times a day for a good Christian man and finally all her praying brought her to a lovely Christian man and they just got married this last year. Maybe God hasn't sent you along the path of the chosen man for you because it just isn't time yet. There is a timeline for everyone on earth, therefore you shouldn't worry - the time will come and you will be glad you waited. You will know when you meet your perfect soul mate! It could be your best friend - that is what happened to me.
For now though, if you would like to have some Christian dates: I have attached a few links.
2007-01-31 02:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As one that fits the description of the King of Kings, Lord of Lords, AND the Chosen One described in the Dead Sea Scrolls, I say there are no Christians, yet. to follow someone, one must interpret them correctly. I don't believe anyone on this planet has interpreted Christ correctly thus far. No, not one. Christ has no followers yet. More people in the family demands more discipline. the ten commandments say not to steal. Christ said not only that, but also give away what you have AND forgive those that do! The ten commandments say not to commit adultery. Christ said one must not EVEN THINK about it.
In these troubled times, child, it is a sin to even THINK about having a significant other, other than Christ. I tell you the truth. You are one of the richest humans to ever hit the planet. And I'll bet you still want more. Many Kings throughout history would have given body parts just to SEE what you have. In 1790, the average human used something like 11,000 kilocalories. By 1980 it had increased to about 2000,000. And I'll bet they were happier then! What gives?
The mind lies to the owner. It tells you you aren't rich. It tells you you are intelligent. Neither is true. The more I learn, the stupider I get. Knowledge seems to be infinite. the difference between me and others? I admit it!
2007-01-31 02:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by quarrk man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should have to "settle "for someone....Eventually you'll find the one you are looking for. But please don't think that a guy that "goes to church once in a while" is loose or in any way a bad person. I used to go to church on a regular basis but since I joined the military I haven't found a church that I feel comfortable with yet. I do drink occasionally and am trying to quit smoking (on the patch right now;) ) but I'm not a holy roller. My family is devout Catholics, nut me I'm nondenominational. And from what I know there are many guys out there pretty much like me with same thing going on. My advice is to not think about it so much and just follow your heart where it takes you.
2007-01-31 02:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MUST WAIT!
God has a Christian man lined up for you and will send him to you (or you to him) when the time is right.
You are giving into the world, but don't play it off so casually, as to think, "Well everyone else is doing it." This is dangerous as you are shutting out your conscience.
There are two classes of people in God's eyes--saved and unsaved. If you are feeling that you are not good enough--then, good. We are supposed to feel that others are better than us so that we do not lose sight of the fact that we are no better than them.
There will always be guys (saved or unsaved) that you are attracted to, even after marriage. You have to wait for the right guy. And, while you're looking, don't give yourself to anyone. Use the dating time to really get to know them. Judge their fruits of salvation--if they claim to be saved.
To answer blest and favrd's question--If you are a Christian, why would you want a total Christian man:
Because God says that we are not to be unequally yoked. He knows that a Christian married to an unsaved person will cause a world of problems. Don't go that route. I did it and it is a miserable married life.
2007-01-31 02:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean, i am kinda in the same boat, i am a christian and i love God, but i just don't click with the people in the college ministry. Today you will be hard pressed to find someone not hipictitical. But i would start with the ones who will at least admit they are cause thats a step in the right direction. Plus i think if you found someone like that who really did care about you, that your faith would rub off on them too. Dont stop praying for someone. God wants you to tell him what you want, and if it is his will then it will happen.
2007-01-31 02:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by corEy marsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attending church keep your eyes wide open. If you are not attending, then find a small local church that follows what GOD has commanded in the New TEstament and find someone who is a regular there. Someone earlier said this and I like it... Be FRIENDS FIRST! GOD will help if you ask HIM for that assistance after you become a Christian (if you raen't one). Look into the sky, GOD has granted each of us another day, and what a day it is!
Eds
2007-01-31 02:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up yet!!!! I felt the same way too. I was able to find some guys at church but they had other issues. I met my husban at work. I was not looking for him at the time I guess thats when it happens!!!!!! I did not think he was my "type" at first but I was wrong. My problem was that I was looking for my "type" which was just a bad habit. and thats why I did not find what I was looking for. So in an around about way God sends us what we need just not always in the package we are looking for.
2007-01-31 02:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Fire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. I would be more interested in working on myself and resolving any psychological, emotionial and spiritual hangups I have rather than finding the right "Christian" guy.
The more you do this the more likely you are to magnitize someone who is your true "soul mate."
I would look more for qualities like soul sensitivity, kindness, generosity, emotional and lifestyle balance then I would about him being a Christian.
Find someone who can help raise you up rather than bring you down.
But please note the greatest "romance" and journey is where the Jesus said the Kingdom of God is: "within you!"
Take Care
2007-01-31 02:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality check you are in your 20's.
Enjoy your time now and stop worrying.
That is Biblical too.
I suggest you find a body of believers you are comfortable with that has a singles group. There are lots of large churches that have them. So look around.
G-d will answer your prayers with the best answer for you. Walk in belief and trust that He will take care of you. Go mingle.
2007-01-31 02:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋