Sometimes when my son thinks I'm sleeping he will come into my room and start touching me and playing with himself. He's 13 and I know he is just going through puberty but I'm not sure if I should bring it up to him or leave it be. I'm afraid that if he sees that I woke up while he is doing it he would be embarrassed so I need to speak with him at another time than when it is happening. I'm hoping it is just a phase and it will stop on its own. Any suggestions?
2007-01-31 01:58:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Your going to have to talk to him about this, You could also get some help from his school. It sounds like he need some professional help of some sort. I would also start locking my bedroom door. Your son has some issues and needs help. Don't just hope this will go away.
2007-01-31 02:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by TD R 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe if you were co-sleeping with an infant who is still nursing it will be okay, but, COME ON, he's 13. He should know better. He will be going to high school. Puberty is the threshold to man hood, step up and tell him that this is inappropriate behavior and that you will not tolerate it any longer. You deserve better and he deserves to be treated as you would treat anyone else who invaded your space, like he is.
If you do not want to talk to him about it, PUT A LOCK O N YOUR DOOR, he should get the hint after that. If he complains that you deny him access, that means that he is aware of what he is doing and that is really wrong. If it continues I would seek professional help, PRONTO!!
2007-01-31 02:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jojo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you considered the possibility that your son may have been molested? This truly is not normal behavior. I am not going to sit here and put you down, because that is not helpful. You don't need judgment, you need help. You absolutely CAN NOT ignore this behavior though. Talk to a professional IMMEDIATELY. If you don't have the money, call your local social service. This child needs help. I agree that this could be a precursor to predator behavior. Good Luck.
2007-01-31 02:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by ouramasongrace 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him it's not OK, don't pretend to sleep through it either. He can play with himself in his own room, that's normal but that's private stuff. As for touching his mom- nip that habit in the bud, it's not normal and it's your body not his to play with and frankly he should be embarrassed. He should know better, 13 is not a baby.
2007-01-31 02:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Tooth 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT normal. This is the behavior of a future sexual predator, but you just go ahead and sleep while he practices his craft! He needs professional help! Where's his father. Not in the picture I bet. Get your son a male mentor to talk to and a professional to talk to. It is not normal for a 13 year old or any other age boy to beat off to his mom.
2007-01-31 02:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
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Honey, I can't even imagine how you must feel, & to have to see this man on a daily basis on top of it all. Is there ANY WAY possible for you to move out & get away from being forced to see him daily?! THAT would be a priority to me IF you could do that. Also, some counseling just may be of BIG help to you too. I've done my fare share of counseling over the yrs., it DOES help. Possibly talk it over with your husband, see if he'll agree to allow you to go. I DO believe you'll get help you so badly need to try to put this in your past, bury it deep. I highly do recommend counseling to you, AND to get completely AWAY from him. IF you're not seeing his face on a daily basis, I believe that too should be of help to you. They are in their late 70s, but still plenty "young enuf", they do NOT need you there with them for help. See if you can get the help you need...all the best to you, honey...:)
2016-04-11 07:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not allow this to continue. not only is this a sign of extreme neglect on our part to find out what the source of this behavior is, it could be devastating to his social well being. you really need to ask him about this. Think about the possibilities. It could possibly mean that he has been sexually abused. I know it's a scary thought but if you continue to ignore scary things your situation is garanteed to get alot scarier.
2007-01-31 02:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by rabieskittie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son used to touch my boobs when I was asleep......but he was 3 yrs old. When I did feel him touching me I would tell him "do not touch Mommy's body that's not nice." He grew out of it. Our children do things that we are not ready to talk about all the time. But that's too bad if you are not ready to talk with him, make yourself ready. Tell him its OK to do it in his own room. Talk to him about sex and protection. You better talk to him before he tries doing something he regrets with a girl.
2007-01-31 02:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe embarrassing him is what you need to do, he shouldn't be touching you while your sleeping he's you child and that's just wrong. sit him down and explain that touching his self if normal but should be done in private and he sould never touch you because it is just wrong!
2007-01-31 02:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would sure talk to him imediately, he should know this is not right to be doing something like this you nare his mom. Talk to him right away and tell him you will go to doctor with him and ask the doctors opinion because after all i am not a doctor and should not be giving advice on something like this .
2007-01-31 02:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by brandy l23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋