My mum got breastcancer a year and a half ago and had surgery twice. Now she is diagnosed with multiple bone metasases. How long can she live with it? Has anyone any experience?
2007-01-31 01:50:01 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I am so sorry to hear of your mums illness. No one can predict what her life expectancy is. My mother went through almost the exact same thing. I moved in with my parents to take care of her. We never lost hope, but she did pass away @ 9 mos. later.
That was over 15 years ago and the technology of fighting cancers has advanced a great deal. My experience was that it gave my mother and I time to mend fences, to become friends, to take the time to develop a deep and abiding love which truly death is unable to lessen. As Christians we have the distinct and intractable faith that we will meet again.
There will be times when terse words may be exchanged... quickly apologize and extend forgiveness, she's not going to be feeling well and sometimes family takes the brunt of it. Let it go.
There will be times you are fatigued and stressed, find someone else to talk with so that you eliminate the potential of venting on your mum.
Love her, love her, love her. Laugh, cry, tell her your dreams, listen to hers. Do this and you will have no regret if the cancer is not arrested, and she leaves this earth too soon.
Do this and you will have no regret if the cancer is arrested and she lives out the rest of her days cancer free.
2007-01-31 02:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot ever predict with sureness how long a person will live or when they will die.
All you know is that today she is alive.
2007-01-31 01:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by monkey777monkey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋