Homework and Home responsibilities-- straight A twelve (12) year old female student but she often wants three to four hours to do her homework, at the expense of not doing household chores (only fifteen minutes worth - feeding dog, walking dog, etc). How can I balance her homework and convince her that it is OK to have excess homework _and_ fulfill her responsibility (the dog)... Should I take away the chore and let her do only homework.
2007-01-31 01:22:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
First let me congratulate your daughter on her realizing that a good education is important.You must be very proud.Perhaps your daughter feels pressure ( real or perceived) to maintain that straight A average.She is aware that with straight A's there is no more up, just hold steady or down. I agree that homework should be done at a regular time, usually before supper. This allows the child to have down time to relax or whatever before bedtime.You may have to explain that a well rounded student is also a successful student. Explain when it is time to apply to college or university ,they ask about extra curricular activities and experiences. Some courses require some type of relevant experience.. They not only want to learn more about you as an individual but if you can manage the full demands and pressures of higher education.As for chores ask that keep her room tidy, walk the dog daily to stretch her legs ( a fresh mind will absorb more) and anything extra MUST be done on the weekend.
2007-01-31 02:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I've been reading on Yahoo Answers 12 year olds have a lot of homework. Is she just taking her time to avoid house work or is she really working on her homework? If she is avoiding it then don't let her do ANYTHING else after her homework until she's done with her chores. Her chores are much simpler than my 8 year olds so I don't see why she can't do her share. I tell my son that he's an important part of our family and must do his share. That's just the way it goes.
2007-01-31 05:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really take her that long to do her homework? Is she working all that time? Is she struggling with anything? If so, you may need to work with her yourself or mention it to the teacher. 3-4 hours a night sounds excessive for a 12-year-old.
If she's just messing around so that she doesn't have to do those chores, maybe you could say something along the lines of "You've got to do two things -- your homework and your chores -- before you can turn on the TV (or play a video game, talk to her friends on the phone, whatever it is she likes to do after-school)." That will give her an incentive to stop proscrastinating. (I let my kids do other things -- have a snack, play with nonelectronic things, read a book -- because I figure they might need a little break between school and jumping right into homework, but we have a "no electronics till homework is done" rule.)
I try to be really consistent with this. When I am, my kids fall into a routine.
2007-01-31 01:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by TaDa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's 12 years old, and obviously a pretty smart girl. I'm sure she can find a way to get her homework done, as well as her 15 minutes worth of chores. Just make her stop her homework 15 minutes before dinner so she can do her chores, then eat with the family -- if she still has homework to do, she can finish it after dinner. 15 minutes of "chores" is NOT going to kill her or bring her grades down any, plus it teaches added responsibility.
2007-01-31 04:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She needs to learn to handle more than one thing. Kids that are not given the responsibility of chores often grow up to expect others to take care of things for them. Kids need at least an hour of physical activity a day, so she needs to take a break from homework and she can go for a walk with the dog and feed it when she gets back.
2007-01-31 01:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Schoolwork should always come before household chores. Now if she is taking her time doing her homework so she doesn't have to do her chores that is a different story but it sounds like she is actually taking all that time to get it all done so I would take away the chores or cut it down to just feeding the dog.
2007-01-31 01:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not take her chore away. Does she actually do homework for that long of time. If she decides to take a break (inbetween) she can surely do her 1 or 2 chores.
It teaches her responsibility.
You can tell her that 15 minutes of chores will definitely NOT bring her grades down.
This may be just her way of getting out of chores.... ha ha ha!
Tell her.... she does her chores or the dog has to go.
2007-01-31 01:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by surfrat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's old enough to manage her time. It sounds like she is just avoiding her chores. My 12 year old daughter is expected to do some chores but like yours, tries to get out of them sometimes. I take away a privilege if the chore is not done.
2007-01-31 01:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she has to learn how to do her work and her work at home, too. Show her that if she takes care of the dog before starting her homework then she can concentrate on her work without you having to remind her all the time.
2007-01-31 01:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tough one. time to let the kids deal with it. the parents will hate you and probably already know. tell the daughter that babysits, she can only tell her what to do, but if the girl lies, it's not her fault. the daughter only needs to tell the parents that she told the child to do her work, but she said she didn't have any. it's up to the parents from there. talk to the younger daughter about what are the qualities of a good friend. tell her that if she has friends that lie and steal, people will think she's the same way. good luck.
2016-05-23 22:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋