One of my dearest friends from college is getting married. I plan on attending the wedding with my new boyfriend. My problem is my ex (who is also a friend of my girlfriend) may be coming to the wedding as well, and things ended badly. I told him I'd never get in touch with him again. If he's there, what do I do?
Do I just ignore him? Or do I be polite and congratulate him on his new girlfriend and the fact he just graduated from college?
I would hate to ruin my friend's wedding. It is her day, and I want to avoid a scene at all costs.
2007-01-31 01:12:13 · 16 answers · asked by curiogirl84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If he is there and you happen to catch his eye or he speaks to you, speak back. You can still be polite and courteous without stirring up controversy. Make small talk, congratulate him on his achievements, etc. etc. and then excuse yourself from the conversation. No scene, no drama, and you still are able to be mature and handle the situation in an adult manner.
2007-01-31 01:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by MissDiva1228 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think ignoring him will just add more stress on you....you might spend the whole time trying to avoid eye contact and wondering if he's going to say something to you! I say, in a situation like this, it's better to be the bigger person and the first one to step up. By no means should you actively seek him out, but if you do see him go up to him(with your boyfriend) and say something like, "It's great to see you. I heard you graduated congrats, blah, blah, blah" Just make it very brief and ultra non-chalant. At the first awkward pause...end the conversation and go on to enjoy the wedding. I say bring your boyfriend with you not to be a show-off or one-up your ex, but just for support and it's the mature thing to do. I hope this helps! It'll be like ripping off a bandaid, and I think you'll have more peace with it if you talk to him. Good luck!
2007-01-31 09:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by emrobs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to ruin the day then treat your ex like he has the plague and stay clear. Don't even glance his way. No need to be polite or congratulate him on anything. He's not worth the breath.
Just go and have a great time and pretend he's not even there.
2007-01-31 10:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by scoop6698 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be polite but not personal, do not talk, just "hi" and "excuse me"; if you ignore him he'll feel important, if you talk about his achievements he'll think you still keep thinking about him all the time. And if he seeks to talk to you just excuse yourself.
And don't be so concern about him. He is probably not even thinking about you at all. The truth is that for many guys we are just another notch in the belt. If he is not some kind of criminal psycho, then don't waste your time thinking about him.
You are just being mess for a jerk.
2007-02-01 13:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. The more you open your mouth to talk to him, the more chance of making a scene. You don't even have to sit on the same side of the room as him.
2007-01-31 09:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by togashiyokuni2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what feels right, if you get there and see him and don't feel liek you can actually talk to him, then don't maybe just a nice hello and move on...if you feel a little more comfortably then yes, have a brief tactful conversation with him, but it will be a lot harder if you go in with a plan and it doesn't seem to work out than if you just go with your gut on whats best, but kudos on trying to keep in civil for the bride!
2007-01-31 09:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be polite and smile. If he approaches you in a nice manner, say hello and congratulate him. If he tries to start something with you, smile and walk away! Be the bigger person in this situation!
2007-01-31 09:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by jacksonblonde 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, why did she invite both of you knowing the circumstances?
Second, make sure she doesn't put you both at the same table at the reception.
Third. Stay on the other side of the room. But if you do collide then just simply be congenial and let it go.
2007-01-31 09:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by O Wise One 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To keep things calm just say hi and that's it. Don't ask about college or his girlfriend unless he brings it up to you first. Otherwise enjoy your friends day and don't dwell in the past because i'm pretty sure he won't.
2007-01-31 09:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'd say, just be civil. don't avoid him, but also don't try to initiate a conversation. if you do have to speak to him, you should avoid topics that include your past relationship with eachother AND your current relationships. just be polite. but above all, remember that it is not YOUR day, it's your mutual friend's, and she deserves her wedding to be as perfect as possible.
2007-01-31 09:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by april_c_a 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋