I am soooo scared!!! give me some advice...?

Question

My parents just told me they are moving to New Jersey becouse my dad is going to teach in Prinsten now, and they will leave me here all by myself and i am not ready for it. I always made all decisions with my family. By the way they leaving me in South Carolina to go to University of South Carolina and after 2 years trajnsfere there. The point is i don't even know how to pay bills. And i don't have a boyfriend to look after me. I am going to die in some small apartment all by myself.

ps they have to move out by March 1, before my graduation and birthday!

Answer 1

First of all Don't advertise the fact that you are home alone!!

Second: Almost all bills can be paid on-line, get your parents help in setting this up.

Third: Until you are sure about things, don't allow anybody you don't know very well to come over, and especially come inside.

Fourth: Notify any of your neighbors that you know well of your situation, Ladies Only. Do NOT tell all the men in your neighborhood that you are home alone. Notify the Neighborhood Watch group if there is one.

Fifth: Keep the doors locked at all times, windows too, even when your at home!

Sixth: Notify your local police of your situation.

Seventh: NO PARTIES!!!

Eighth: Try to find a roommate, A good friend from school.

Ninth: Notify all of your friends Parents and Teachers that you trust and ask for any help or advise they can give. If you can become friends with any elderly neighbors, they ofter make great allies.

Tenth: Get a BIG Guard Dog.

Eleventh and finally: Don't worry yourself to death, common sense is your best ally, listen to it, obey it and ask for help when needed. Call your Parents on the same days of the week, and most importantly, when in doubt, call for help!!! Keep in touch with those who genuinely care about you!!

Answer 2

Are you planning to live at home the rest of your life? Grow up and get a job. You do not need someone to take care of you if you are a responsible person, and MATURE. You should have been thinking about this day coming along time ago. ( moving out ) When a kid turns 18 they should be out on their own, and let the parents get some rest, peace and quite, and freedom that they have had to do without for 18 years taking care of them. It should be Mandatory for the kids to leave home, and pull a 4 year minimum in the military when they turn 18 or get out of college. Too many cry baby kids anymore with no respect or wanting to help out the parents who have sacrificed for them over the years. IF the parents have done their job, and have done it well, the kids WILL BE prepared to live in the outside world away from the home, and they will be a survivor, and better off as a person when they come to this stage in their non-dependency life. The biggest problem today is the parents giving the kids everything they WANT, and NOT giving them what they NEED.

Answer 3

Who says you need a boyfriend to look after you? Learn to look after yourself first. Ask your Dad to help you set up a budget so that when the bills come you will have the money to pay them.

Paying bills just that. When they come in the mail, you write a check and mail them in !! The hard part is making sure you have the money each month to pay them which often means less clothes shopping, less entertainment etc. But - we all have to experience this at some point in our lives & it is now your turn.

You won't die in some apartment all by yourself. Find a room mate if you want a bigger place. There is so many social activities at university that you can get involved in & you will have enough work to do that you won't have time to be lonely.

Think positive. There are so many kids out there that would love to be in your shoes.

Answer 4

Honey, your a grown woman now. You need to handle your business and stop relying on others so much. This is supposed to be the most exciting part of your life when you get out from under your parents. You need to learn how to take of yourself now because what are you going to do later in life? And just a bit of advice no man likes a woman who isnt independent and needs a man to always look after her. A boyfriend is something you get yourself when your **** is together. As far as bills go, if you have a job great, if you dont get one. Then sign up for a bill reminder and bill payer like www.myfreecheck.com I use it and its great. Im never late on any payment and if you want to it can do autopay where the site will take it out of your account automatically every month. There are so many great things about being on your own look at this as a positive thing. And in 2 years if you do move to NJ i can let you know where to go!! LOL

Answer 5

Here's what I did to make through as a freshman especially during hazing day... I memorized my schedule and classroom number so that I wasn't looking up at the room numbers while holding my schedule in my hand. That's a prime give away to spot those newbies. Also, just be yourself. I'm outgoing too, so when I saw my friends talking to new girls I didn't know, I just went up to them and introduced myself as if the girl knew me all along. It was a great way to get girls in school, trust me. Being outgoing in High school will land you in some of the hottest cliques, but always remain grounded and never put the shyer people down. I hung out with EVERYONE, not just the popular kids and that's what will make you a great guy in h.s. Good luck.

Answer 6

Well girl, Its time to learn to be an adult and not depend on your parents. Yes its hard, but it has to be done! They are still going to be a phone call away, so if you have questions, all you have to do is ask them. You dont need a boyfriend to support you, you need to support yourself. And when you get married , then the man can support you.
Everybody has to go through this some point of time in their life, and this is your time. You will be just fine! Chin up, look ahead, and be ready to move your feet and learn.

Answer 7

Anna, you are about to start your most important class, life 101. Take a deep breath, and ask you parents for help. Tell your parents your fears. I'm sure they are not just going to abandon you without giving you a support system, and you don't need a boyfriend to look after you. You will be surprised on what you can do on your own. Just remember, you will need the best education you can get.

Answer 8

First of all dont b afraid.We have 2 face many things in life which v dont like,but v have 2 accept it.Dont worry Time is the best teacher,it will teach u each & everything.U should b independent & should make decsions urself & u can remain in contact with ur family through phone & net so just b cool & accept it

Answer 9

Ann, seems your stressed on many levels. All of which I have no doubt you can handle.

You're in college? No problems, your smart enough to take care of yourself.

Go to the library and get a book on setting up a house hold budget. Read it , do it.

You don't need a man to take care of you. That's not a relationship.

when your hungry, eat. when your tired sleep. Wash your cloths while you study. When your sad, cry. When your happy show the world.

when your lonely, call your mom.

Graduate, get a job and be productive.

oh, happy b-day a bit early.

you will be fine. No one every died in SC because their parents became Yankees.

Answer 10

When I was just 18 I moved from my home in Michigan to Colorado, and let me tell you I was TERRIFIED! I had never been on my own, never even been more than shouting distance from my mother - I was convinced that all sorts of terrible things were going to happen to me. I knew no one, didn't know where anything was, knew nothing about maintaining a household, or budgeting.....I was doomed!!!!!!!

Then I got there, got settled, started to learn my way around, figured out how to run my own affairs, and adjusted. It didn't mean I still didn't miss my mom, but I was on my own and I was handling things just fine.

I also learned so many things about myself - what I was capable of handling on my own when my Mom wasn't there to bail me out. I think getting away put me miles ahead of my counterparts of the same age who didn't learn to be self-sufficient.

You can do handle it - just set your mind to it. The things you are scared of talk over with your parents. Have Mom and Dad talk to you about budgets, and bills. Discuss things like what to do in the event of emergency, and simple household "issues" that may come up.