2007-01-31 00:26:00 · 7 answers · asked by janice m 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Much as we would like to think otherwise, but the answer is "no". Or at least "not for everyone".
Experience of strong emotions like love and affection, and experiences of strong physiological reactions like sexuality are immensely personal. What is true for many other people, might be dead wrong for you.
However, a few things will certainly be true:
* You cannot "save up" sexuality. Sexuality is a set of emotional and physiological processes that happen mostly in the spur of a moment. But there is also a huge "experience" factor relevant for it. Simply put, it does get better with practice. Your experience will improve, and "waiting for Ms. Right" is not a good idea. You risk falling for the wrong person simply because your pent up hormones are fooling you.
* Partnership is as much a practical arrangement, as it is a deeply emotional experience. Again, it takes practice. Even long term partnerships change over time (believe me, I've been married for 18 years). And it's a good thing they do. But you need two things to make a partnership work: a very strong emotional bond, and maturity for both partners. The maturity is what you will not develop by "waiting".
Like it or not, there is a "trial and error" aspect to partnership. The only thing that will happen if you concentrate on waiting is that you get desperate. Your emotions, and your hormones, won't give you much of an alternative. It's human nature, the very thing that kept our species alive for 15000 years. The only thing that will happen if you "wait" is that suddenly more and more people start looking like "Mr. Right" (or "Ms. Right", depending on what you're looking for).
The bad news is that life is not a romantic Hollywood movie. The good news is that it's exciting, vivacious, immensely captivating and rewarding. Be a part of it. Go out, get experienced.
Sure, you'll have some regrets and some disappointments. Even some bitter ones. You'll also have some mindblowing positive surprises. And through it all, you will find out the real you. What makes you tick, and what you need in a partnership that is truly fulfilling for you, and for your partner.
Hope this helps
2007-01-31 00:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by SecurityFreak 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You test-drive a car, you look at a house before you buy it, and well I think it is the same with dating and marriage. If once you’re married, you will always have arguments about money and sex. Not enough of one and too much of the other, take your pick which it will start out being. So if you eliminate one of the issues from the problem, then you might have a decent relationship after all the newness wears off. I mean, bad sex is worse than no sex at all in my opinion. But that is just what this question is asking for others opinions, so there was my 3 cents.
2007-01-31 09:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by dontblamemeivoted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think there is but there is no shame in ending a relationship that has run its course. I think you will wait emotionally anyway because you won't feel that way for anyone else, sexually? That's an individual decision, in an ideal situation it would be the best thing to do in my opinion.
2007-01-31 08:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by MARK M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, sex is important in any relationship and when the time is right then you make love. If a girl says I want to wait then she's in the wrong century and can wait for someone else.
2007-01-31 08:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-01-31 08:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is, but need to wait for that special person
2007-01-31 08:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes... My wife... She and I have been married for one year, and we were dating three before that... I've never felt happier or more complete
2007-01-31 08:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by J-Rod on the Radio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋