She spoiles her kid to no end. It's not even 8am here and he asked her for a cookie while she was outside starting the car to warm it up. When she said no he locked her out of the house. This is my landlady's daughter (who happens to live at home, jobless, 34 and pregnant with her second child...yeah a real winner). Is there any hope for some of these kids today? And for the parents?
***This was originaly posted in the wrong section....
2007-01-31 00:11:37 · 18 answers · asked by FaerieWhings 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sorry, He's 6 years old. Definitely old enough to know better. When she asked him if he did it on purpose he said yes because you didn't let me have a cookie.
And they were very loud about the whole thing.
2007-01-31 00:23:41 · update #1
get....she has been unemployed, by choice (she quit her job out of the blue), for almost a year now. You don't get pregnant at 34 by mistake unless you are on the pill, and she wasn't on the pill. I was a single mother for many years, so I know how that goes. She is honestly one of the worst parents, and adults, I have come to know. She never disciplines him. So it's not a matter of he's retaliating even though she disciplines, he's retaliating because she doesn't ever discipline.
She lives off of her mom who works hard and collects rent from me and my husband to keep the house going. She doesn't pay any rent at all. She is very much able to get a job, very smart, and very spoiled herself. When I did live at home, with my son, I made darn sure I worked and paid rent to my parents. I just think it's time that adults started acting like adults and parents started parenting.
2007-01-31 00:52:06 · update #2
Sounds like a lack of dicipline for the child. Sounds like he's used to getting his way and acts up when he doesn't. That's why parents need to be consistant with dicipline and work on it from the beginning......
You can't just suddenly say one day, OK, my kid's old enough to start being taught to respect people and to understand dicipline.....these are things parents need to teach from the begnning.....somethign I think is seriously lacking from many (not all) parents today.
2007-01-31 00:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the child needs some stern and consistent discipline...maybe even a little more love and affection to go along with it. It also sounds like the mother needs a real friend. I am sure it is not easy being a single parent. We don't know for sure why she is in her current situation, but it is possible that she is doing the best she can. Her pregnancy is not going to help her get a job....not many company's are willing to hire someone that is pregnant. It would be great if people would offer a little help to someone in need instead of sit idly by passing judgment. I guess if she had given in to her child's demands, she would not have gotten locked out of the house and this question would not have been asked. So, lets give this woman credit for standing her ground and not giving in to the cries and demands of this child that she told no.....parenting is not an easy job....
2007-01-31 08:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by getrd2go 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Not quite sure of what the question is, however, the problem could have been avoided by making it a hard and fast rule to not answer questions or make a decision while you're busy doing something else. Something such as, "just a moment Johnny, I'll be right in to talk to you," may have prevented this. I told my son that I would not answer him with anything but a "no" if I was doing something at the time he asked and wanted an immediate answer. If he expected me to say yes (which wasn't a guarantee) he needed to wait until I could give him my attention. It usually worked!
2007-01-31 08:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by stimpycat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it were *my* child, they had better hope and pray that I couldn't get in. Mine aren't perfect and they have been known to have fits here and there, but generally they know when I say no I mean it. They would never DREAM of locking me out of the house over a cookie...or anything for that matter.
Of course my twins are only 18 months old and they could be a whole new ballgame. Hopefully I have been successful at instilling values in them.
2007-01-31 08:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The kid suffers from a very severe case of LACK A SLAP. But since she was starting her car she must have had her house keys with her. But if not she just learn a lesson in life. Maybe two lessons. One the key and two LACK A SLAP syndrome
2007-01-31 08:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
threes hope she just seriously needs to start disciplining her child, she needs to learn that for every choice she makes there is consequences either good or bad. Hopefully she can get her child under control while she still can
2007-01-31 08:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't seem to be hope for the mom's future, but she'd better get a handle on her son, they don't stay small forever, the bigger they get the more problems they can cause, if not set straight. She needs to break the cycle and not create another looser.
2007-01-31 08:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by Lindalou 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Since you didn't give the age of the child, it is difficult to say whether this was something that deserves a punishment or a good talking to. Yes the mother is a loser, if she is pregnant, and there is no responsible father around. As to the kids, as they grow up, they'll have to make their own choices.
2007-01-31 08:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Kids are like they are because of poor discipline, so really the question is....Is there any hope for good parenting???
2007-01-31 08:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by Dazman 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Doesn't surprise me. Parents are too damn afraid to discipline their kids these days, so the kids discipline the parents instead.
2007-01-31 08:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋