what is your opinion on this type of woman?

Question

she has had past drugs problems but is clean now , but occasionally have mental flashbacks ( small halcinations lasting only seconds)

she is also shy, has had a bad past, and has some emotional issues..and self esteem issues, she puts herself down alot and feels she isnt good enough
Can be kind of distant when i talk to her sometimes its easy to see that she is thinking of something completely off subject or maybe talking to herself in her head..she has had past depression problems, past anxiety problems, past relationship problems

but she is interesting , spiritual , beautiful , sweet, down to earth, funny

I really like her and am going to continue to see her, but i am curious of your opinions. .

would you date someone like this?
would you marry someone like this?
could you trust someone like this?
could you fall in love with someone like this?

would you take an interest on this sort of person or would you walk away from the beginning?

Answer 1

I think this is the type of person that needs emotional support, care and patience. Yes, I would date someone like this, marry only if they coodinate in my trying to help, trust with caution and yes i could fall in love with them. Remeber it is the past they wish to forget, even if it keeps coming back and they are interesting. Why not love her.

Answer 2

The gal has a lot of baggage. Love involves some risk but on the other hand you know what she can be like in the bad times. She is interesting to you now but will it get old in 2 years? 5 years? If you are the caretaker type maybe it would be a good match but consider the days she will be alone, would you trust her while you were at work? Trust has to be part of a relationship or it really is not worth bothering about no matter how hot the emotions might be.. personally I would be an occasional friend to a person like that.. email is better .. keeps you at arms length.

Answer 3

We all have our problems. You and I are no different.

What made you talk to her in the first place? You are asking questions like there is formula for "cut and run". I don't mean to offend. You obviously have spent some time getting to know her because you can mention the positive while pointing out the negative.

I think the only way you'll know is by trying things out. If I met them and they were interesting I'd see where that goes... Further intimacy might bring dating and the rest. Falling in love is not a choice. If you've followed the rest of the path love becomes inevitable. But each of your roles and HOW you love each other will bloom into the flower its supposed to be :)

Time, Patience and an Open Heart

Answer 4

This truly is a test of true and unconditional love.

If you really love a person unconditionally then you should give them a second chance if they are willing to turn over a new leaf. You should help her to overcome her problems and get into the mainstream.

Unconditional love is standing beside your partner no matter what mistakes they have done in the past and forgiving future mistakes that they may commit.

Taking a look at the bible Jesus loved sinners, forgave them and waited for them to turn over a new leaf anc coem back to him.

From what you have said she seems to need all the help emotional or otherwise that she can get from society. You need to build up her confidence and self esteem bit by bit .You should also make her feel wanted and loved.

Congratulations to you for being her friend so far. It remains to be seen if you too would demonstrate unconditional love in this trying and testing situation.

As a true christian I may have married her and forgiven her just as Jesus forgave all of us for sinning against him.

Answer 5

Sounds like you are more interested in what other men think than what you think. It's possible her past problem messed up mind a little bit. That doesn't mean that she isn't very kind and lovable just a little goofy maybe. Yes to all your opinion questions. Opinions are like noses everyone there own, some suck others blow. I wish you much happiness. My wife is GOOFY that's why I love her

Answer 6

I would do all the things that you are seeking opinion on. Her past is gone and if she is clean, then she is a strong willed lady who deserves the love a man like you can offer her. Just don't do it out of pity since when your energy is gone you might do something that will cause her a relapse or more depression. Just be kind, caring and loving enough to accept her. All the best

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Sounds like a good possibility for a lifelong relationship, if you like her and she likes you the rest can be worked out. Personally I'd rather be involved with a girl who has seen the bottom and climbed out of it, it shows strength and tenacity. The fact is everyone has the issues you mentioned in varying degrees, some manage it better than others. It sounds to me like she deserves respect

Answer 9

1. Yes, I would date someone like that.
2. Not too sure, maybe, but only if I knew her really REALLY well.
3. Probably not..
4. Possibly.

Take an interest.

Answer 10

as long as she has came to terms with her past, which doesn't seem like it, i don't see a relationship being a problem. Maybe at this point she just needs a great truthful friend that will show her how much better life is now than it was with her past life. the best of luck to the both of you.