i'm seeing a man who has admitted that he used to hit some of his ex-girlfriends especially when drunk.we've been seeing each other for a year and he's never struck me or yelled at me to the point where i get scared. can i take it that he's "changed"? he's asked me to marry him
2007-01-30 23:52:56 · 12 answers · asked by therna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can be guaranteed that he will beat you. It's only a matter of time.
2007-01-31 00:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by I AM ME 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he could of changed and in that case congrats but my advice is to still be cautious. If this guy has struck women be4 he could do it again. Just be careful and watch out for yourself. You especially don't want to have children with this man if he is abusive cause they will more than likely get hurt too. Just slow down and think about your feelings and talk to this man about what your thinking so maybe you can solve and worries or concerns you may have. Good Luck!
2007-01-31 08:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you have been with him for a year the relationship is still young. My first, third and forth boyfriends were abusive.With my forth boyfriend we never argued the relationship was good until one day he turned into a beast, the least little argument or anything and he would flip and when i tried to leave the relationship that's when the fights got more, i had to leave the country. So if i was in your shoe i would be very careful. Test the water before you get in. I cannot tell you don't marry him but be careful.
2007-01-31 08:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never really know, my man was the same and never struck me once. but people change when they get married.
2007-01-31 08:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by MILF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is in AA and finished with drinking there is a chance he is okay. If he still drinks run for your life. Year or no year, he will hit you if he has hit others.
2007-01-31 08:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Penelope Yelsopee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man who is abusive never changes. He may act like it for a while until he's sure you trust him. Trust me. He hasn't changed. It's just an act.
2007-01-31 07:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummmm yeh....history has a tendency of repeating itself.....once he marries you he will think he has con trol over you and then he'll start hitting you and you will have nowhere to run because it will be all your fault for not being cautious enough in this situation.
2007-01-31 08:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by iiNnOc3nT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been able to hide his dark side from you for a long time. But will he be able to hide it for the rest of his life? Are you willing to take that chance?
2007-01-31 07:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by T Time 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
highly YES...love is abt taking chances...now, d question is r u willing to take chances with him? u can set a few pre-marriage aggreement, like if he hits u...u can sent him to mental institute....
2007-01-31 08:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by tulip2011 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea that is kinda scary...at least he admitted it before you two get married...you might wanna get him drunk for good measure!!
2007-01-31 08:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by uabsupercow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋