i just dont know but i cant let his past GO. my fiance that is.
he was sexually active and i have always be self coutiouse, meaning i had no or little sex.
he on the other hand was and i mean was very sexually active
it bothers me, to the point that i cant have sex with him, he makes me sick sometimes, i often think that he has diseases.
i always through his past in his face and he hates it.
i really dont know whats wrong with me, i cant bring myself to be kind to him, am i selfish, rude, ignorent, or do i just really hate him.
and think that i love him.
i have never been so confussed in my life, i just cant tell.
we have been together for awhile and ever since we met it always bothered me, i thought id get over it coz it was new, now since then its been nothing but fights and hurtful words
your opinions matter
sorry for my question to be so long
2007-01-30 23:42:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You obviously feel very differently about sex because you're experience has been different than his. This is not necessarily a bad thing but I think you're wrong to give him grief for it. You have every right to ask him to be tested for std's, if he's clean and he's been honest and monogamous with you, that's all you need to worry about. The past is the past and people do change when they grow up and get into into serious relationships. I think you may be overly insecure. Don't push him away or feel threatened by the girls he was involved with before he met you, he's with YOU now.
2007-01-31 00:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to sought out your emotions first in order to know why you are behaving this way. Has he shown any signs that he is still in his old ways? Has he done anything that makes you doubt him?. If he is the one who told you about his past, then that's a first indication that he trusts you and wants to start afresh with you. However you may feel he did not wait for you and wasted his time with others. If you LOVE him you can learn to forgive his past and build your lives together. All of us have a past - though for others it may have been extreme.
2007-01-30 23:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by pet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ma'am,
If you cannot let his past lie there, then your marriage will end in utter failure.
You even doubt you love this man, and you can't stand sex with him...speaks VOLUMES to me. Seems you even mistreat him.
Do you think things will get better? I think this is exactly why folks shouldn't get married on a 'wild' weekend...you found some things out about him you can't live with. This is a GOOD thing. You need to tell him about it so that you BOTH can move on.
2007-01-30 23:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ARGH... I'LL TELL YOU WHAT THE HECK MY PROBLEM IS... I NEED A NEW JOB, ALRIGHT!! AND I COULD USE A LITTLE LOVE IN MY LIFE!! THERE, YOU GOT YOUR ANSWER ARE YOU HAPPY NOW... WELL, ARE YA?? .....j/k... but not about the whole needing the new job or needing the love part. =) Oh... the poll... um.... BLACK
2016-05-23 22:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll be quite honest with you. my ex had that problem with me.. he was angry that i had a past and he didnt' really have one.. he was always throwing in my face making me feel like a big slutty whore.. when that wasn't the case at all..
anytime we had a fight he brought that into the arguement.. and eventually i couldn't take it anymore.. and left him..
so either suck it up.. and figure out the past is in the past and move on.. and live happily ever after..
or he'll eventually get sick of your insecurites and leave you
2007-01-30 23:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
very simple my dear your insecure thats all.get over it when he was with other women did he even know you then.probably not so why worry about something that happened in the past.
2007-01-30 23:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
think about it if you really love the guy or not be honest with yourself and him be happy with your decisions think about his and your past
2007-01-30 23:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by imjustakid 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I smell a breakup.
2007-01-30 23:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by uabsupercow 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
means ur not happy with him.
2007-01-30 23:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by dm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋