in your opinion how long do you think u should know someone before..?

Question

you move in with them??
or marry them??
random question but interested to hear your views..i know some people who are together for years before moving in together and i know others who after a couple of months move in with one another!!
it seems all so easy and flexible these days..do you agree??
thanks for your comments x

Answer 1

Very Very Long Time, untill you are very sure that is what you want!!!!!!

Answer 2

I would like to say that I would wait 6 months, but I haven't really stuck with that. Most of my "moves" have been because the circumstances dictated it. My world wa in turmoil at the same time as another's. The move seemed like the next logical step.

My largest issue is to see how the other half lives. Having a heads up helps because you are not side swiped by mysterious habits that disturb you or them. Going in blind is idiotic. It also gives you time to gauge priorities. Sometimes we fight over chores that could be shared. Or traded for that matter.

I also need to know that the other person can take care of their own issues. independent can become 2 things: codependent or interdependent. Do they do it because you can't by yourself or because you are working with them and it creates balance?

Answer 3

Yeah I agree. It does seem all so easy and flexible these days. I'm not into the whole moving in together thing, anyway. The fact we're dating should be good enough and when the time is right we can get hitched. But that's just my opinion.

Answer 4

Ok for starters you are looking for a timeline to put to use in your life well I got news for you hun life doesn't work like that instead of worrying about societies guidelines why not live in the moment and follow your heart. Timelines for things such as first kiss when its appropiate to engage in sex when you should have the lets move in talk make life boring and predictable instead of enjoying your time with your partner you will constantly be waiting for and expecting whatever is next on the dating timeline.

Answer 5

it depends on how well u know the person, i met my currend husband over 2 years ago, it took 2 mths before planning a life tog, we waited a further 7mths so my boys could get used to the idea of us leaving their dad, we married a year later after moving in, it felt right, i think thats what is best, when its right for all concerned

Answer 6

If you are comfortable with someone and being with them makes you happy then it is time to think of moving in together or even committing to marriage (as long as there's love).

Answer 7

there is no set time when it feels right do it
i have been happily UNMARRIED for many many yrs to my mr right
being married does not mean anything these days
we got a mortgage got a join checking account and we have ins together back in the day you needed to be married to do all this
we even had a small ceremony to show our love in the back yard and said vows
i even took his name legally
it just has to be when it feels right...

Answer 8

Move in depends on how long you know them.
not before 4 months of knowing them. Keep in mind I am not saying dating them

Marriage
At least a year before you get engaged

Answer 9

One full year, coz some habits come out later in the relationship when you are a little settled, so one year at least, nothing less

Answer 10

I'd move in before marrying anyone.
It would have to be some time before I ventured that far. I like my freedom too much.

Answer 11

Knowledge is not measured In time spent, but rather the quality in time spent. So when you are sure, it's time! Enter, step into the world of a new adventure...live, enjoy, we live but once.