Would do guys like educated ladies?

Question

Wouldn't they want somebody less educated than themselves? I am marrying a girl from Thailand with an 8th grade education. I have a bachelors degree. She is defintely better wife material than these western women with their 'degrees'. I think marrying a foreign wife who is way less educated than you are is the way to go. They'll have much less incentive to divorce because they don't have any silly career 'ideas' and they'll see you as the sole provider. But I'm confused as to why some western men say that they want educated women. They don't make any sense. Why would an educated woman want to marry at all? There is no economic incentive and there is a higher risk of divorce. So why do these new age type softy western men say these things?

Answer 1

Pi,

You certainly may marry whomever you desire, and I can only speak for myself...

In a nutshell...you can only screw for so long, and for me, if I can't have a decent conversation with the woman, I'm not going to be interested for long.

So, you marry this girl, and bring her to the States. If she's INTELLIGENT at all, she's going to teach herself sll the things she's been missing out on. What are you going to do when she starts asking questions? Are you going to forbid her to learn English, or get a hobby? That amounts to intellectual blackmail. I think the main reason why someone (me) would like an educated woman, is simply due to the fact that she is there because she WANTS to be there...not because she feels no alternative.

Answer 2

I've had both types. Married one with a high school education, married another who has a Phd.

Personally i like them smart, as i don't like having to deal with a lady who lacks a level of intelligence to such a degree that she can't hold a decent intelligent conversation.

While your opinion may be supported by various statistics, I personally think it would depend on the woman and her commitment to any relationship/marriage.

My wife makes $130,000+ per year at her job. I on the other hand am retired military and never earned near that amount of money, but i have a good sized pension.

My wife and i get along really well, we work at it to keep our marriage running smoothly. A successful marriage requires a good deal of effort on the 2 people involved. With professions mixed in it makes it even more difficult.

True being single might be easier for some professional women, and some might be happier being single, but there are those professional women who want a lifetime partner and are willing to make sacrifices to have a successful marriage and be happy,

Answer 3

I'm answering what my boyfriend would say, not what I would- or I'd be blasting your question away. How do you expect to get to know your wife? You won't be able to carry out 'intelligent', higher level conversations- that's why many guys want women that have degrees. Many men get frustrated when they're not understood- and when you've been educated, you're not going to have as mach confusion. But for MY response: a women who is educated won't leave her husband for her job. That's where loves comes in. Ever heard of it? And just because we want to have more of a life that the Gilded Age's Cult of Domesticity would allow us, doesn't mean we don't have LIVES. You make it seem like women aren't people that have brains too. You would be surprised that women and men have ONE difference beside actual gender: strength Don't downplay us- that's as stupid as us doing the same to you.

Answer 4

She'll also be susceptible to every guy's line that she comes in contact with when you bring her over to the Western world; if she's never seen anything except a 3rd world ghetto and has an 8th grade education, I doubt(if she wasn't sellin' her *** where she came from) she'll be very street savvy when she gets to the big city! You're not going to win any big points by taking on a woman that you think is lower on the scale of human dignity than yourself...you just have a different set of issues to confront!

Answer 5

Your logic falls on yourself. If educated Western women are likely to divorce you because of their silly whims to pursue careers (that they spent years preparing for), then they wouldn't get married in the first place. Or at least not to people like yourself. You also seem fixed to the idea that women can either have career or romantic aspirations, but not both.

Good luck with your Thai wife. Hopefully she can proofread your work too.

Answer 6

It depends on individual, u can't force others to like what u like right? Anyways, when u like someone, it shldn't be cos of their education, at least for me. I mean i respect ladies who are educated and making lots of money, just as long as she respects me in return even tho i make less or less educated then her...it's all abt compromising. Some thinks that having someone who has lower education then them can't communicate well enough..got that from a so call friend. He is a lawyer and she is a clerk...i told him..u ain't better then anyone too....so show respects and not disrespect and things will do well. It's never abt education or money or etc....it's whether u truly love that person and willing to sacrifice for him/her.

Answer 7

Ever heard of equality ??? Besides how can you have an intelligent conversation with your mate if you are well over eductaed than she is. Relationships are built on maintained on communicaton my friend. Thats why i dont hook up with young girls on a serious level there is no common ground intellectually. Plus it sounds like you have some security issues if you are overwhelmed with the idea that your wife will divorce you.

Answer 8

sounds like you just want a wife who obeys your every command and is basically what women were a long time ago...some women are okay with that and dont have to be less intelligent....many men enjoy being able to have real conversations with their wives, it allows them to have things in common, some men are lazy and would love to have their wives be the sole provider....there are a million reasons but marriage is truly about love not a bout who plays what role in the relatonship

Answer 9

You really don't have very high expectations for your life, do you?
Educated women scare the balls right off of you. You deserve someone of less education because you're lazy. It's right up your alley.

Oh, and don't ever underestimate the mind of a woman.,

Answer 10

I can't figure what your question is but i guess you are right. Giving this foreign girl a ticket to ?citizenship is adream come true. Any way if she make syou happy so be it. I am happy for you