why wont anyone go out wid me?

Question

well iam not fat but not skinney and i liked this boy so much he went out with me for 2 hours then dumped me he said it was because a girl asked him out and she was totally fit so he said yes and every boy ive been out with weve had sex and theve dumped me i do not undersatnd im not fat and im not ugly but i jist be myself and they dont want to know me what shuld i do hheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllllppppppppppppppppppppp mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmeeeeeee plz

Answer 1

sounds like your lonely and need to work on friendships first before dating lads.

you need confidence and friends opinions.

email me at [e-mail] if you need friendship and advice

Answer 2

First of all you should take time to get to know a fella before having sex with them. Otherwise you'll just get a label as being easy and you won't get the respect you deserve from a fella. Secondly, im taking it you're quite young so the boys you've been with are probably just immature. Dont get so down that every fella you like doesnt fancy you back, it happens to the best of us and the heartbreak only makes us stronger in the long run. You'll probably look back in years to come and wonder what the hell you saw in him anyway. You're doing the right thing being yourself and one day some special (lucky) fella will come along who will fall head over heels for you for who you are

Answer 3

Er...You write like Vicky Pollard speaks. You seem to rush everything...How old are you 15-16-17? Because the women I know would rather have teeth pulled than let some bloke (me included) jump their bones (...unless they are really, really drunk...and if I'm lucky I will only spend a week or two in Hospital) during the intial stages of the relationships. If you are having casual sex, then be prepared for STD's, abuse and genral crapiness of life...Oh and you could end up pregnant...
Give yourself a slap before it is too late!!!

Answer 4

I agree with hans, build up some friendships with new people, so you can share your thoughts and feelings and they can give you opinions.

And if there is someone you like, don't jump in and have sex with them straight away, take things slow create a relationship, then the guy will see you do want a relationship and not just sex.

But however many times they leave you, don't stop being yourself because that's not the problem they are the problem.

Answer 5

If you have had sex with every guy you have been out with, chances are you probably now have a reputation as being loose or a ****. So, the guys that will go out with you are the ones that want to bang her and leave her ... guys don't want a long term relationship with a woman who sleeps with every guy that pays her the least bit of attention.

Answer 6

well you see if they really liked you they would of waited to scroo you and i beleve in this myselfe: "that you should never NEVER go out with guys unless you know for sure that they want more out of a relationship than justsex ok" and thats not being mean or anything i just thought that thats the sencable way to go and if you go out wit a guy then i suggest that you find the gud things about him and try not to think what other people are going to think because if you do and dought going out wit him then that shows that you are more worried about what other people will think of you i REALLY REALLY hope that this has helped you and im glad if i has ok thank you i hope me answer did some gud and one other tip you shouldnt just go out with some one just because they ask you thay should have som gud qualitys and not just looks and DONT be afrade about saying NO ok thanks again lol

Answer 7

Dont have sex with every bloke that looks twice at you, no one is going to respect you for that, they will just use and abuse you until someone else comes along. You need to work on your self image and self respect. Maybe you should stop looking for a man - look for some friends, go out with them and have fun just being you. If your dating people who date just for looks etc - well look for someone a heck of a lot maturer too!

Answer 8

If you're going to have sex with every Tom, Dick and Harry you meet then they're not going to have any respect for you, and therefore dump you. You need to go out with a lad for a while first and see if you get along well with each other and have a laugh.

Answer 9

you sound abit imature maybe that has something to do with it???
you dont have to have sex with these people to make them like you, its obvious anyway that this approach isnt working so...... i would not try too hard just be yourself, i know you are saying you are but you might have an air of needyness about you, and have a break from the boys for a while, you dont have to have a b/f surely??

Answer 10

I think just be who your are, just relax, and if you meet someone take it slowly, don't jump into bed with them so quickly, try and get to know him better and let him get to know you better. Remember this i am single and when i go out there i meet men who are only interested in one thing, that puts me off. Yes, we don't want to be lonely, but sometimes we have to be, i would rather be and let someone use me. There is someone out there for you, the more you will look the more you will be dissappointed, so take it easy, it will happen. Good luck

Answer 11

boys are dickheads if looking 4 love why not try this site www.smooch.com its free
u will find someone maybe your not looking in the right places
maybe try and join a new club or society or go out somewhere where u can meet new people different people
good luck