Ok my bezzie mate has got this guy recently - they spend all day texting and speak pretty much every day - they've done the nasty quite a few times and do stuff like dinner and drinks once or twice a week. HOWEVER the problem is we dont know what he is - like without knowing the full ins and outs of it as Im only going on what shes saying - shes convinced he's a bit of a player in that he's pretty much said he doesnt have a lifestyle for a girlfriend (travels/works etc) but that hes not meeting anyone else as where would he have the time etc and that he wouldnt do it to her anyway - I think from what shes told me that he sounds like he could be going down the road toward commitment over time as I would imagine a player wouldnt be so keen but Im not really sure....Im asking because right now I think hes really good for her and she's really happy with him but shes thinking of walking due to what she thinks he is....what do you guys think!?
2007-01-30 23:04:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe she shouldn't take the relationship so seriously. You say that hes good for her so tell her to just enjoy herself and not get too emotionally envolved. Dates should be fun not analysed to death.
If hes seeing her a couple of times a week he must like her but allday on the phone and texting? He must really like her cos if you don't its just a nuisance; hence the term 'textpest'. Its also expensive and more than one girl doubley so.
Wait and see and take it easy I'd say.
It will all come out in time. If it turns out he just wants a casual relationship, is that really so bad? Less fuss, I have found.
If hes is sleeping with other people while on the road, well she can too.
If after a while she really feels that finding the one and only is the only way to be happy she can still look for him while having fun with the first guy. Or not if it doesn't sit right with her ethics, but good things are rare so don't chuck it away on a whim.
If everything is good though it will work out if thats how they feel. Love will find a way, as they say.
2007-01-31 02:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Deep Heat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's a player who's on the verge of committing to your bezzie mate!
2007-01-30 23:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by gareth_bancroft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a keeper to me. to be honest it sounds as if he is just being honest with her about his life, if he was a player he wouldnt be so into it all. tell her to stay with him and be happy and even if it only lasts a short while so what life is for living take the happy times when you can :--)
2007-01-30 23:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeper - Sounds like me and I would never dream off playing around with a girls feelings.
Not having the life for a girlfriend, to me means he has a busy life with work and social commitments, it does not sound like he is screwing anything that moves.
But this is just my judgement from your description above.
2007-01-30 23:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that everybody need a companioship, so this is what your friend is to this guy - a person to have fun with. agree with me this is very hard to have fun by yourslef. u need a good companion for that. men prefer to have a woman for that. it doesn't mean that he is going to marry her at the end - he might as well keep his eye oopen for someone better to come along. it doesn't make him a player, a guy just is not ready for a commitment
2007-01-30 23:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if he cares about her feelings & is being upfront in what he is looking for in a relationship right now.
I don't think he is a player but I do think he is letting her know he can't offer her more than what they share now.
2007-01-30 23:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds really insecure, it sounds like things are going well from what you write so why is she worrying so much?! Has this bloke got a rep or something? She's either insecure or she's got committment issues and is using this as a way to dump him maybe...?
2007-01-30 23:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i agree she is a player you know its not very nice to be playing guys .
2007-01-31 01:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by badass-mofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're naive in case you particularly have self belief that your guy has replaced one hundred%. no person changes one hundred% like that. those little tidbits of advice, like how he tells you while he talks to a girl, are basically the top of the iceberg to maintain you from delving deeper. the final thank you to cover the full fact, is to bare particularly of it, basically sufficient to maintain human beings from turning out to be too curious.
2016-11-01 23:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-30 23:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Aseel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋