me and my babys daddy were not together through out my pregnancy. he said he wants to be their for our daughter. but he is only around when he wants to be not when i need help with my baby. & he never once helped out finacially. is it wrong for me not to let him around his daughter anymore? how would you feel if your ex had you kid and never let you see your baby? would you be heartbroken, would you even care?
2007-01-30 22:51:49 · 9 answers · asked by MILF 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First talk to him. Then if it doesnt work out. Strike him out for a while and see if it changes anything.
Some may say that your kid needs a father. But what use is a man who does not behave like one. Your kid will get the wrong idea of how a dad is supposed to be.
Best of luck.
2007-01-30 23:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Fernandes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he only says what he thinks you want to hear. If he has not contributed financially to her welfare and is only around when it suits him regardless of whatever arrangements you might have made then by all means deny him.
As a father i would be miffed of course but it may make me take stock that i would want to mend my ways and prove I could be a father and be involved.
For now i think you are making the right decision. He has to show more interest I would have him sign a contract of intent say see her once a month then once a fortnight. Try it out see how often he turns up. If he misses too many back to the start or not at all ever I would also say that he has to make some efforty to pay for his childs clthes and education and if he refuses or renages then he was never genuine about reform Move on babe there are lots of men out there that will show both of you lots of love. Go get the package deal if it all looks bad
2007-01-31 07:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jack, if this guy really wanted to be a Dad he would first of all take care of his financial responsibilities toward You and the child, then he would be a man and begin to ask you if you even wanted him in your life. If you do not love him, give him the boot, the quicker the better, call the police if necessary. Do not allow this guy any access to your child, ever. To do so will only encourage him and confuse and hurt the child. Remember, the child's welfare must always come first!! It's men like him that give real, good fathers a bad rap.
2007-01-31 07:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by RP2@AZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its about your daughter not your broken heart. I know that's hard.
I would try and sit him down and have a civil talk about what you expect. You should ask for support.
2007-01-31 06:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by BabyQuestions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to agree with most of the answers here..Think of it this way its his lost & someday he will regret it..For now you need to just put the needs of your daughter first..you'll do better without the loser..
2007-02-03 13:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a dead beat dad that is just trying to get back in your pants. get the loser out of you and your childs life asap
2007-01-31 06:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by sickand tired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, He's a dead beat dad...You're letting your heart get in the way of reporting him to the D.A.
You need to slap some reality in his face...
2007-01-31 06:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him see the child and get child support from him - its that simple.
in the end if he cant be there when you need him then maybe he needs to prove to you he can be there before you trust him round your child.
2007-01-31 07:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by morderwarg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the flick
2007-01-31 07:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋