In my culture they are so religeos and that thing is not acceptable , but I love her .
I don't know how she lost it she says she was drunk for the one time in her life.
2007-01-30 22:33:32 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I am Muslem.
I am divorced, and yes I was when I married.
2007-01-30 22:52:10 · update #1
man, i know this life is hard and we all have to accept the truth and not to marry her!!! if your muslim then there is no question about this and, im sorry but you have to leave this girl and open a new page in your life. Sorry man this is the truth ......
2007-01-30 22:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by cute_turk1989 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She had the guys to tell you, if you really love her then why are you so bothered about the culture? How many men are still virgins today? If the question is not raised for a man then it shouldn't be raised for a girl as well! Its both sides of the same coin!
If you really love her, then what's wrong in there? Love transcends all barriers. Will the society live your life with her? What guarantee is there if you marry a virgin that the latter will not ditch or b***** you?!
I know that its a religious thing and i believe that its there in all major world religions; even in mine. But, i would like to bring to your attention that mine stated at some point : " Do no commit injustice in the name of religion". It further elaborates saying that love can even win God and conquers all. So, my dear listen to your heart and not to people. Oh by the way, it also states to "listen to your heart"! Good-luck!
2007-01-31 06:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Pearl_beach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its alright, jus because she made a mistake doesn't mean she is a piece of dirt. I know how some religons could be, and how some cultures were against pre-marital sex. Its the individual value and perception that actually counts. It is just superficial if you look at it in another way. Firstly, do you know the reason behind the culture itself? If you do, then do you agree with it? Then would you accept her regardless of your belief or is it just pressure from the society and family members?
But what excatly have you got to lose if you marry her?
2007-01-31 06:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Christopher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a Bond that two people become one..And Once it happen you gonna Love each Other the way you Love Yourself.No Secrets And Grieve to each other..And it is A commitment...So Why you gonna Marry her If you Don't really Accept her on what she use to be in her past , were in She is Just Human Not Perfect Same As we Are not perfect..If you cant accept that, HOW CAN YOU GUYS REALLY MELT TO EACH OTHER WELL IF YOU HAVE A BITTER IN YOU RE HEART... Accept her totally and Genuine or Forgive Her Like Our God Who Always Forgive Our sins...Hope i can Help..Cos If You Really Love her Rough Road is Easy To Walk Just to Reach her.
2007-01-31 06:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by naomi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really give a lot of information there.. So to give you an answer, I am going to assume that you are a christian. I apologize before hand if this is not the case.
In the Bible, it says;
22 Run from anything that stimulates youthful lust. Follow anything that makes you want to do right. Pursue faith and love and peace, and enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.
2 Timothy chapter 2 (NLT)
My question to you is... Do you love this person enough, that past transgressions do not matter to you?
if so, your family will understand.
2007-01-31 06:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by realninja50 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love and trust this girl, right? So marry her no matter what, because you will feel bad if you didn't. Oh, and on your first wedding night, cut yourself a little bit so that you leave some blood on the sheets, if someone of the family is so rude enough to wonder if she was a virgin. That's how the knights did it in the old times, anyway.
Good luck, and believe in your love!
2007-01-31 06:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why if u love her would u let the religious culture matter. as god forgives our faults and mistakes so why can't this culture. in the real world things do happen and nobody is perfect, there is something wrong with each and every one of us. just because someone is not a virgin doesn't mean that they would not make a good wife. so what u would be the only one who knows the real truth.
2007-01-31 06:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters what happens in the past as to whether a person meets your expectations or not. Don't judge her because of a weak moment and criticize her for something she did at that time. Accept her for what she is now and forget her past. Live in the present. After all, you can't change what happened in the past and neither can she nor can you know what will happen in the future. You can only live for today......this moment in time and no other. So give her the benefit of the doubt and forget her shortcomings in the past and move on. Love her now and tell her you support her and adore her.
2007-01-31 06:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, marrying is not about Virginity. Marrying is about Love. Sometimes being dis virgin is not a sin, maybe she/he was carried away having trust to his/her partner that they will be forever. But Love is just shortened word of acceptance. Go, marry her, as long as you both have great affection. Why not? right?
2007-01-31 06:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mac2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you get past this ? What I mean is since it is unacceptable in your culture can you live with the fact that your wife was not a virgin when you married her ? If you answer no don't marry her. Are you a virgin ? If it's that important that she be it should be that important that you be as well.
2007-01-31 06:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Big_Dog_Spike 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u love her n wanna marry carry on, unless the virgin thing matters to u, no religion allows anyone else to check for virginity but the husband, its ur choice in ur hands
2007-01-31 07:02:20 · answer #11 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋