I am in a casual relationship and I tell my lover that I have a hard time believing hes not with other women. I said he would just have to tell me if he was and I do kind of expect it. He tells me he has no time for anyone else, etc., but I know he is lying. I want him to just be honest with me and tell me that I am not the only one. It helps me to make informed choices. I would still like to be with him but my perspective will be different if I am one or one of many. I just wish he felt that I was valuable enough to deserve the truth.
2007-01-30 22:04:22 · 15 answers · asked by tygrrr5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey I tell u that if u think he has or will be sleeping with other woman then he is. Have u ever heard of aids or std? Even though u may be on some form of birth control u can still get pregnant and your unborn child will be born with these problems. So u need to not only take your life into concideration. How do u expect him to think u are valuable enough when u don't think enough of yourself to put your life in danger like this? Girl u diserve better than this. It is good to share some things but not your man. If u are shareing him then he is not your man and never was.
2007-01-30 22:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to talk about other sex partners because he doesn't want to hear about your other sex partners.
I think the conflict is with yourself. You say that you deserve the truth because you're valuable; but you also said that you're not valuable enough that you should be his only sex partner.
If it's an open relationship and you allow other partners, quit asking him and assume he has another lover. Otherwise, don't bring it up until you want to be monogamous.
Best of luck
2007-01-30 22:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by A J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because that guy wants to keep you but still have his way with the other women. He knows that you will leave him once he told you the truth. Who wants to be one of the many? aren't we in a relationship to have someone we can call mine and vice versa? Reconsider your situation would you want to be just one of his women? In the first place you should be valuable enough to be his only one. You desrve more.
2007-01-30 22:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Shai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason you tell us it's fine for us to go out with the guys or travel for a job or spend money on a car or hobby that you don't like: it gives you ammunition to use on us later. He's either telling the truth(it's possible, ya know!), or just hedging his bets because he knows it'll come back to bite him in the azz if he doesn't deny, deny, deny...
2007-01-30 22:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can i ask you something?? how do u know for a fact that he is with other women?? because u HEARD that he is?? because your THINK that he is??
until you physically see him bumping uglies with some other girl, with your own eyes, live and in person, then you can't assume that... secondly, if it's a casual relationship that you two have established, then honestly, what does it matter if he is or he isn't, or if he even decides to disclose that information?? it shouldn't, unless feelings are starting to get involved...
2007-01-30 22:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by shoei7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think positive dear, why do you want to spoil your today thinking about his past, just enjoy yourself and believe in eachother. And if you really think he is sleeping with other females do not have any relationships with him. But don't hang out with him thinking wrong about him.
2007-01-30 22:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by gsha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah right! Who are you kidding Lady?
If he came right out and told you he was sleeping around, you'd probably hit him over the head with a frying pan.
2007-01-30 22:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a weird question. Whose idea was it to be in a casual relationship?
2007-01-30 22:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by xena790 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he's lying. Did he take a polygraph test? My he really likes you and doesn't want to be with anyone else.
2007-01-30 22:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 23:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋