im in love with two men. one ive been casually seeing for the past year and the other one is my ex. i think they both want to be with me. because they are kinda in competition with each other. except the one that im casually seeing is afraid to admit his feelings to me. he wont let his guard down and open up to me. i can tell by his actions that he likes me but he hasnt actually said that he wants a committed relationship. as for my ex well we have been broken up for almost 2 years. i tried to get him back after we broke up and he thought it was for the best to take a break for a little while. through out all of this we have remained friends. now all of a sudden he starting coming around alot more and i have to admit i never fell out of love with him after all this time. i feel exactly the same about both of them. how would i go about picking one of them. i need to pick one of them because i cant keep them both the problem is which one. i would appreciate any help. thanks
2007-01-30 21:58:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think with your head instead of your heart. Which one would be the better husband and father, for the remainder of your LIFE. Maybe neither of them measure up. To me it sounds like they are both a bit reluctant. You need someone who is not afraid of committment. Good on you for not trying to have your cake and eat it too. Read 'Love Smart' by Dr. Phil Mcgraw. Good luck.
2007-01-30 22:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's kind of risky to assume that the one you've seen casually wants a committed relationship, maybe the reason he hasn't said so is because he doesn't so don't go jumping to conclusions. Until he tells you so you can't assume it. Sometimes we feel one way and 'read' signs in other people and that may not be the way he feels. Or even if he does seem to love you is one of those people that don't commit. What if he never tells you because he can't open up, do you want to be with someone like that or would it be frustrating? So I wouldn't do anything until they propose it. What's the hurry if none of them have said anything? Until then you are free to date them both and the more time you spend with them the better chance you'll have to sort out your feelings.
Nothing to do with this: Gabby, no offense, it's just hard to understand what you are saying by writing like that. Sorry sweetcheeks.
2007-01-31 06:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the new guy. You tried once with your ex. What makes you think that anything has changed so much that getting back with him would work?
2007-01-31 06:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ure ex.cos 1, he's comfortable wif you. and dets impt in a relationship. 2, u said u still do love him ryt??
dun feel bad abt de other guy though. cos 1, he has to be able to let his guard down. it shows det he trusts you, not afraid to be himself arnd you.
in tym, few things cud happen. de other guy might realise his loss. dis might be a gd wakeup call for him. and if ure in luck, ure ex cud realise ure not de one for him or vice versa. and VOILA! u go wif de other guy.
or..
de guy might realise ure not much a loss and move on, and u and ure ex are having a tym ure life. VOILA! again.
or..
u come to realise, both are useless. so move on!
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2007-01-31 06:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy you are casually seeing is the one you want, yet you are holding on to your ex just incase he doesn't open up to you and show his feelings towards you.l need to make up your mind and take that chance and open up to the guy you really want.
2007-01-31 06:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋