Dagger > Depression > Rigorous workouts,lol. The signs were there, I just ignored because I trusted her. Completely blinded by love. She was going clubbing with her friends, staying out later n later etc etc. Long story short, she left me for her ex.
I know communication was a major factor. I take the blame because 1. We are not married 2. We still live between our parents homes. 3. Have a daughter 4. Never kept the relationship interesting (got too comfortable).
Only had good intentsions though. She knows I've made financial goals within the last 2 yrs for june of this yr. But she didn't even wait and it's likely I will miss the mark since we suffered a setback. She was unhappy and I admit I didn't show much as much love and appreciation as I should've. I've learned she's broken up with her ex and is showing intrest in me again. In my eyes, If I can't get a house, capital, 2me I'm not worthy of any woman and I refuse to go back until I have these but I risk loosing her. Advs pls!
2007-01-30 20:49:17 · 14 answers · asked by JE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yo yo yo check it out u seem to be thrown the word luv around a little 2 much my man keep it simple have luv for the mickey d's and maybe the bk if u no what im sayin
peace out 1 luv
2007-01-30 20:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, the whole I love you beeing said can just be habit from the previous two years. I have a gf I broke up with OMG like 17years ago that when we have any contact she still says that. And ofcourse for lack of anything else to say I say the same thing back to her. Second she just needs her space. She needs to find out what she is missing. If you are a good guy then keep beeing a good guy for her. She does need that. Be patient. If you force it you will both be miserable. Third if you are just playing at beeing a musician, then get a job. If you are making money at beeing a musician then great. But have a good job to show her you can support a family. Women like that. Good luck!!
2016-05-23 22:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you two can work out the serious problems your relationship has, some internet stranger I dont think will give very good advice on that. But I will say that now that you have a child you need to get with it and be a Dad, and if possible keep some form of a family together. Kids need to grow up with parents, talk with her, find out why it fell apart from her mouth and fix it. And vise versa. Making money is important, but if she can't weather the storms well then she should think past her own person wants and remember the child.
2007-01-30 20:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. You will be in pain for sometime. I'm still not over my six year relationship and that was almost three years ago. It hurts man, trust me, it hurts. I did the same thing you did, not commit.
There's a reason we American men or not committing, and the women are pissed off and want us to jump through hoops to get that ring on their finger. But in our western culture, it's a loosing proposition for us (financially that is) and we're the losers in the long run because of the high cost of female domination and power. Women have all to gain, men have all to lose and these girls know this and don't care. They control the rules, (and make them). Don't blame yourself. There's a lot of us guys in the same boat. Try to get legal as quick as you can (for the sake of your little girl) and be prepared for the worst nightmare of your life, a legal custody battle!
Prepare for a long running of hurt man. Start looking into fathers rights support groups and by all means, get some personal family counseling as soon as possible.
2007-01-30 20:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by cpinkfloyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you have analyzed things very well, have goals and want to see them through. But you are being very hard on yourself taking all the blame for her poor choice of breaking things off..You and her are not nearly so important as your daughter...the child deserves a stable environment..your gal blew it big time..and she is the unworhty one..your only obligation is to that little girl you helped create..meet your goals and work your butt off to be the best father and provider you can be to her..you don't have to be rich to be a good dad..but so far it seems she barely rates mentioning in your life. Get it together..You owe your ex nothing but civility for your daughter's sake. Everything changes after you become a parent..your wonts and needs are secondary..make a good life for your daughter..if your ex wants to cozy up to you..and you'll take her back..just make sure you include what is best for your daughter in that equation.
2007-01-30 21:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by B-Rabbit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stupid, thats what you are. How can you date someone for 11 years without a proposal, she thinks the relationship will go on and on like that, and how come you still live with your parents. You are not serious with life itself. nowadays after 2 years dating both parties must know where the relationship will end. Did you say 11 years (eleven years) or you wanted to say 1 year (one year).
2007-01-30 20:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's life. You can't have her back and if you could you wouldn't want her. How often do you go into the garbage can and take out a sandwich you threw away the day before because you think it'll be fresher in the morning?! Just move on and file it as a learning experience..."nothing to see here, move along!"
2007-01-30 20:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a tough one. I can tell you though that your material possesions do not make you worthy of love. If you are able to care for and love a woman then it doesn't matter what you own or have. If she loves you and wants you, she shouldn't care about that either. Follow your heart, if you want her, get her. And if its meant to be, you can buy a house together and build a home and family and life with each other.
2007-01-30 20:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 years...a kid, no marriage and both living at home with mommy and daddy. She made the right decision. You aren't going to commit to her and you aren't going to get yourself together to support a family. She needs to move on. Let her find someone who can help her make a real family.
2007-01-30 20:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man since you not married to her then get your life going and deal with her later if she realy loved you like you did she could have concerned herself with your relationship not just leaving you like you say she did i know its hard and almost impossible but you can do it and admit it she doesnt seem to love you like she did she is trying to come back maybe because things were not going well with the other guy(rebound)
2007-01-30 21:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by broderm2k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋