I'm a spoiled brat in the sense that my parents never made me do any chores and almost never got me to do things that take responsibility. They didn't always get me what I want or anything like that, but now I find that I am selfish and the only thing I am disciplined about is getting good grades. I'm in college 2nd year.
What should I do!?!?!?!??!?!
2007-01-30 20:39:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
note: I'm a guy. I don't want women to think that I am a lazy jackass.
2007-01-30 20:52:51 · update #1
Perhaps you are hopeless.
If you are a spoiled brat then you will bring plenty of pain to the people around you and eventually to yourself.
2007-01-30 20:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least your owning up to what you are.now its time to do something about it.Get someone to talk to.I dont think you need professional help. I know in A.A. they have this person that the alcoholic is suppose to get. They are called a sponser. The alcoholic is suppose to call them whenever they have a problem or need to talk.Thats what you need. I am not saying you are an alcoholic, I am saying you need someone { like a sponser} to talk to. Someone that will pull you up when they see you in that bratty or selfish way.You do need a pat on the back though.At least you see your wrongs. Some people that were spoiled would think there wasnt a damn thing wrong with them.I am sure you will change for the better, because you want to.Take Care.
2007-01-31 08:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by Leneki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already on your way to solving your problem if you realise you have a problem. Getting a job where you earn some money to pay for your courses and living expenses would be a great start. You'd have to do alot of things that you don't feel like but you'd need to do anyway to keep your job, and you'd have responsibility. Don't worry - I was spoiled too when I was in college, but that's changed since I've been supporting myself.
2007-01-31 04:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Birdie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of things you want to do during the course of your week. Try to subdivide it into 30 minute (or 15 if that's easier for you) incriments and stick to it *no matter what*. Check off items as you complete them. For example try like so if you an evening/work schedule:
5:30 p.m. - Clean kitty box, feed kitties, pet kitties
5:45 p.m. - Vaccum
6:00 p.m. - Vaccum
6:15 p.m. - Break time
6:30 p.m. - Read/Study Time
6:45 p.m. - Read/Study Time
7:00 p.m. - Cook Dinner
8:30 p.m. - Dishes
If you're also irresponsible when it comes to money, don't spend money friviously or using mass amounts of credit, eveutally it will catch up to you. In order to begin the process of budgeting read a book, hire a professional financial planner, or take any money you have for the month (to be distinguished from all of the money) out of your bank, make envelopes for your "living necessities" and mark each envelope with what those are (i.e. Electricity, Cable, Gas/Water/Sewage, Phone) set aside "Entertainment" money in its own envelope. DON'T ever EVER ever tap into one to pay the other. If you only set aside $50 for electric one month you take the money out of the Entertainment envelope.
2007-01-31 04:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by scrltsunset 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pull your head in, you ain't going to get you anywhere being a lazy, spoiled brat. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your actions you obviously know that you don't so do it. Be generous and help out often it costs nothing and it will make you feel better about yourself. If your being selfish stop yourself and know that your doing it. Good luck with it, remember its easy to be lazy
2007-01-31 04:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by lukeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you sound like me! well, I used to be like that. We had a house maid so I didn't have any household chores... life is tougher for me now since we had a fiscal crisis. I learned to wash dishes, do laundry, cook and things like that. I think I became more mature now that I have responsibilities. It actually made me feel like a better person. I'm in 2nd year college too.
2007-01-31 17:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by xoijdn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking a little responsibility for yourself, like giving your folks a help out at home, will raise your self esteem. With that you will gain respect from those around you. Id hate to think my folks were looking at me with resentment because I needed them to wipe my ***. Your beginning to see that a little co-operation goes a long way. Imagine what a future wife has in store for her. A grown man who needs looking after like a kid brother. Ask yourself 'am I a man or still a kid looking for another mummy to look after me till I get old'?
You'll come good eventually, but how many girlfriends are you going to scare away in the meantime?
2007-01-31 05:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by dtedad-50 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think before you speak. Do some charity work helping those in need. Get a paid job. Take responsibility for your words, actions and self. In general 'grow up' (not being nasty just the right phrase).
2007-01-31 04:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing some volunteer work. Tutor other students if your skills are up to the task, get a job and if there are intramural sports team at you college join one of them to teach you about team work.
In the most basic terms....do something or someone other than for your self.
2007-01-31 04:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by iraq51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty simple . . . just stop it ! If you don't, you'll hurt people and push them away your whole life. I never did chores at home either, but I've never been considered spoiled.
The only reason you are selfish is that you like to be that way. If you didn't, you'd change today!
Good luck !
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2007-01-31 04:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by Maewest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋