all because im still a virgin! Im 22 and never found the right person to do it with but get slated for not putting out ive been called fridgid, tight and a host of other names just because ive never had sex. Im sick of it and just feel like pulling a guy and getting it over and done with. What is wrong with wanting to wait for the right one call me old fashioned I dont care im just a soft romantic. and if you're out there you know exactly who you are smashing a girl in the face is not a way to try get her to drop her knickers!!!
2007-01-30 20:33:23 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go girl more power to you.....do it when YOU want to do it not when others think you should do it......
like to see a young lady with standards....good on you
if people dis you then they are the ignorant ones.......
2007-01-30 20:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by Carl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on now! Who do you think the real freaks are? Just because you don't think like others do, doesn't mean you don't know how to think. Who are they to make you believe otherwise? What gives them the right to impose their will on you? Of all the nerve! You know very well who and what you are; a decent forth right person who refuses to lower her standards in spite of what all these other miscreants say. These idiots are a dime a dozen. On the other hand you are a gem, few and far between, above all the rest. So don't let those jack asses make you cave in. They are probably too young to know any better. No matter what don't sell yourself out. It's not worth it; not for any reason, under any circumstance or for any person. Just because someone has the ability to have sex doesn't mean to go out and throw it all away. So take it in stride and continue to believe in yourself and believe that the right person will someday come along for you. This will most certainly happen. Without sounding trite, you have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy being the old fashioned romantic. There is nothing wrong with it! There are plenty of others who will back you up.
Not for nothing, but say you decided to give in to "some guy just to get it over with". Imagine what people will be saying about you then. Either way it's a no win situation. You get labeled no matter what you do. So you might as well stay the course of your own choosing and keep your dignity. No regrets and no shame. Hold your head high and be able to face yourself in the mirror.
2007-01-31 05:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alyssa,
First of all, I want to commend you. You are NOT a freak, dearheart. Let me tell you this, ok?
God created you and you are a special person. And it is your body to give to that special person when the time is right. And to this point, you have determined that the time is not right. And when that special person comes along, you will know.
You do not have to knuckle under to those who pressure you into having a sexual relationship before you are ready to do so. They are not in control of you, neither are they in control of your body. You do not answer to them.
To just have sex with a man to "get it over with" is not a good course of action for you to take, neither do I believe that you would want it that way, but would rather save that for someone you love, as it should be.
You cannot base your decisions and actions upon the opinions and peer pressure of others. Many will try in your lifetime. But if you give into it now, people will always control what you do, and I don't think you want that.
Be strong, and I think you're an upright and wonderful person!
2007-01-31 04:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, you only remember the guy who smacked you in the face as worth a second look! Maybe it's time you sorted out why you're still a virgin and what you plan to do when the 'right guy' comes along...or will you even know because you're too busy trying to keep the golden triangle intact?! Is there something else about you that you think guys should be noticing that they aren't and are angry because they keep trying to get into your pants instead? Maybe you should work on your appearance and general demeanor and stop thinking about fending off the advances...after all, it's YOU that keeps drawing them in; why do that only to chase them off when they're doing what you're asking!?
2007-01-31 05:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to get the right balance here with what you believe to be the right thing to do.
by all means stand by your beliefs thats great BUT be careful not to build this experience to be to much of a big deal.
myself included i havent ever spoken to anybody who has ever had an amazing first time experience.to be honest it is for most people pretty dull and uneventful.nothing like what you'd exspect.
its only when you learn whats good and bad, what you like and what others like between the sheets that sex will start to get good.being with someone you trust will also make thing better
but like i said the first time is exactly that.....the first time.
dont build it up too much otherwise you could be in for a disappointment.
im not saying get out there and be a s*ut but lifes too short to make yourself wait to have fun.
good luck and have fun....your gonna have a whale of a time.
2007-01-31 04:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by aberdeen302004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex isn't a bad thing.. you look at it like it's something to hold for that ultimate PERFECT one and let me be the first to tell you that there isn't that nor will there ever be that... yes you might find a great guy that will treat you in the very best way you deserve but you will never find the one your looking for in this kind of light because your still yet naive.. sex is not just sex, when you do it, it opens the doors within you to learn other things to then find that special one your searching for, really think about this...
2007-01-31 04:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't be ashamed. I was the same age when I lost my "V" too. I was a die hard christian prior to that. So I can attribute my celibacy to "a higher authority". So just relax. Don't push for getting it on, too soon, before you're ready. Even more, evaluate your life, at least on it's present course, and see if you really think you need to be in a relationship and risk pregnancy. What's more to gain, saying "I did it" or "oops, I think I just made the biggest mistake of my life so far".
2007-01-31 04:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by cpinkfloyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a guy and believe it or not... you are quite a rare find indeed.
Trust me, I would respect someone who is preserving her virginity intentionally far more than some ho-bag who goes around sleeping with anything in sight, any day.
Don't listen to what people say - trust me 'soft romantic' girls like you are getting harder and harder to find these days!!
2007-01-31 04:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by Buck Flair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair play, Stick with what you belive and dont give in to pressure form narrow minded people. You do what you feel is right, and forget what these idiots say. In a way they are probably jealouse of you for having the courage to stick with your convictions.
2007-01-31 05:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them, guys just want to get into your knickers and are offended by rejection, just you keep waiting till the right person comes along.
2007-01-31 04:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could stop telling everybody you are a virgin, it might help anyhow. Being a virgin is not freakish-you know and they know it but people can be cruel I'm afraid. Don't let it worry you when wanting to wait is your choice and something to be proud of.
2007-01-31 04:44:25 · answer #11 · answered by WW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋