G/F and I broke up almost a month ago. I still talk to her abit and at first I was ready to move on but she seemed as though she still had interest in me. She is the one who broke up with me so I was a bit confused but continued on my way. I gave her a little concern while we were out one night. That same day I felt bad almost as though I was trying and I wanted to but in another way I didn't. I wrote her a letter telling her I agree with her on the fighting and believe being apart is best. All together our relationship had issues because we never gave each other space. This was what the first break up was about. She still loves me the same as she did before but she's enjoying her freedom and so am I. What do I do?? State all these things to her and let her know I really care about her and love her. Should I tell her this was our problem and I would be happy to have both her and my freedom to an extent? The love is still there but she fears for her freedom.
2007-01-30 20:18:02 · 10 answers · asked by Kenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been through this with my boyfriend, and know how you feel, me and him broke up for those exact reasons, but we still met up, we still talked and got on really well and we both really loved eachother, but, we both enjoyed the space we had when we were apart.
I got back together with my boyfriend in the end, because i told him that i loved him and still cared for him...and he felt the same way.
We just made sure that our relationship went differently, we didn't see eachother as much as we used to, we didn't call eachother as much as we used to and we have days where we don't see eachother and have some alone time, but we still see eachother and still have a good laugh together and we still love eachother.
Maybe you should suggest this type of relationship to your girlfriend? Tell her that you still love and care about her. Ask her if she'd ever get back with you, just make sure that the relationship goes differently, because you don't want to repeat all your mistakes and break up again.
Good luck.
2007-01-30 20:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Yellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would advise both of you taking time out alone for a bit. you both could probably do with the break. when time has passed you could meet up and discuss where the relationship went wrong, and if you still love each other which it sounds like you obviously do, maybe you could both reach a compromise. eg dont live together, but agree to meet certain days of the week. the rest of the time you could both see your friends etc. sometimes we suffocate each other in relationships, especially if we rush things by living together etc, and for some this can breed resentment, arguing etc. we feel trapped. if your both meant to be together, love will find a way!! just give each other a bit of breathing space in the relationship. TALK to each other as to what went wrong, and what you both want from a relationship. COMMUNICATION is the key to a good one.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-01-30 20:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by emzc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married to my husband four and a half years been together all up six and a half years. We had a lot of differences at first, set in our own ways and stuff so we faught like hell. We decided to split up at one stage thinking it would be best for us, but we felt that down when the day arrived it just sat too heavy on our shoulders, we realized we didn't really want to be apart and it really wasn't neccessary because we loved each other too much, so we decided to give each other (within our relationship) time alone doing seperate things, trusting eachother, trying not to be in eachothers pockets. Still being involved in our own interests. If you feel comfortable together, you have to bend a little, sit down and get everything off your chest together, being understanding, see what differences you really have.
2007-01-30 20:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by withy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a nice guy so if i was you i woulsd talk to her if the only thing you split up for was the space, then just make an agreement that she and you go and do whatever you to want to do a couple days a week and see how that goes. or you could just move on but im sure that is crushing her heart aswell. you need to think about it. try once again! hope it goes to the best. k. frosty
2007-01-30 20:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kid Fro$ty / $up3rman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would actually say that love conquers all nd if u guys are going to conquer all the situations nd problems in ur relationship u have to talk openly with each other give each other enough freedom for yourselves nd have ur time together. it will work out.
2007-01-30 20:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by cassyforsure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard to forget but eventually you'll sooner learn how. . .
getting back is very tough but if you really like and and you know that she feels the same way... then go and tell her!
2007-01-30 20:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by ahleks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two need the break!
2007-01-30 20:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by caralinar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can't hurt to talk to her now. What's she going to do? Dump you? At worst, she'll say no, so you're back where you are now.
2007-01-30 20:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go after her shes waiting for you to do so
2007-01-30 20:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by baldwin28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋