even love. I got rejected by the guy I was so sure liked me. He was blushing around me, he went out of his way for me, he treated me well....but I asked him out and left him hanging for a few months, then I asked him out again and he's like, "I'm in a relationship now. Thanks for asking"....
I'm bummed out that I didnt move fast enough and that my shyness came off as arrogance, which I am not. At all. If only he knew......
2007-01-30 20:14:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Leaving someone hanging" for any length of time is a bad idea. When you like someone, you should be direct about it and not engage in the childish games people will tell you to try. Playing hard to get can blow up in your face, as you've had to learn the hard way. I'm sorry this didn't work out for you, but learn from the mistake and move on. Don't give in to the temptation to think of yourself as a failure, or that's just what you'll become. You sound like a good person who doesn't have a lot of experience yet. Never mistake ignorance for stupidity. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-30 20:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Scheming Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls like playing games more than men. Men are more straight to the point and he probably took your playing hard to get move more like rejection. Sometimes it is important to take things slow and let the guy you like know your interested but let him doing the asking out. If you really want this guy still though I wouldn't suggest cutting into his current relationship. There are plenty of other great guys out there that you will have your chance with soon enough. However, you may get a chance with this particular guy again when the time is right. In the mean time concentrate on family and friends. Love will come to you just by showing the real you and your true feelings.
2007-01-31 04:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, sit him down on his own and tell him that you felt a lot for him and really wanted to go out with him, and be sure to tell him that you didn't mean to be arrogant, you were just shy. I'm sure he'll feel flattered if you tell him this, but don't give up your hopes because if he's in a relationship, he might not want to break it off for you. Just stay friends with him, stay close and you'll never know what will happen in the future.
Just hopefully you've learnt from it, you should learn not to be shy because shyness gets you no where and if you're cautious about something, chances are, people will get in before you at anything.
2007-01-31 04:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Yellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part about being in a relationship that ends or in trying for a relationship that doesn't pan out is that you get the feeling that there's no one out there for you. you feel like you've lost out on something with the person you have your eyes on and can't see beyond today. then, lo and behold, you wind up finding someone else. this is just life, cruel as it seems sometimes. but maybe this new person you WILL find will turn out to be a better catch than the last one. trust me, happy endings do come and, yes they can and will happen to you eventually. for the immediate time ahead, work on you and TRY not to over-analyze and/or let your emotions run havoc. i know it's much easier to say than it is to do. but trust me, the next guy is right around the corner. the last real relationship i had devastated me when we broke up. i'm still single and looking but i'm ok - finally - with myself and realize that even though i REALLY wanted that relationship to work, it didn't. and after thinking about it after a while, i realized that it wouldn't have survived anyway... not without me changing who i am way beyond compromise. and then i wouldn't have been happy. there are over 6 billion people on this planet. i'm sure there is one for you. accept and love you for who you are and realize that sometimes God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers (to quote a song). and - who knows - someday you might look back and question what you ever saw in this guy anyway... best of luck to you...
2007-01-31 04:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by PHX RISING 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what has been. You have so much to look forward to. And you are not a failure. Your life is limitless(positively speaking). Don't feel bad about your choice either. Nobody's perfect and I'm sure you had your reasons. The right guy will come along but you just keep being you.
2007-01-31 04:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eliana, think that he was not suitable for you. Soooo many people are waiting for you, only for you. Try to do some creative works like learn new things, listen songs, etc....... Then one day, someone will bring infinitive happiness in your life. Love should be part of life but not the heart of life. Understand???
Show him that you was the perfect girl for him but because of his bad luck, he missed you. Present yourself the best girl. Then one time, you'll be the happiest girl of the world.
Remember: Life is just a struggle, we have to strive hard, very very hard. Because we have to show that we are the best........
Do you know that we every people are here for specific work. But now you don't know that for which work you are here. But one day you will know very well. Kick him and look ahead..............Try to be optimistic, brave & couragious girl.........
"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
Take Care :-)
2007-01-31 04:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by M.A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh..why'd you leave him hanging?
I'd advise you to let him go, move on, and try again. Believe in yourself next time - just go for it and tell yourself you have nothing to lose. Don't play games. And remind yourself that you're not a failure - hardly anyone finds true love the first time. It takes time and effort and practice, and everyone makes mistakes. Tell yourself you've learned something and try again.
2007-01-31 04:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. I'm shy too but i don't let it bother me...there again I don't have a sex drive any more...huh.
Trust me you are not useless at everything. FYI do you know how unlikely it is that you beat all those millions of other sperm to the egg at your conception? You sound like a great person anyway so i wish you good luck.
2007-01-31 04:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not. You just made a lil mistake of not putting things up in gear. Cheer up. Enjoy your life :) He might come back to you when the time comes. And besides, you don't know how he feels either, do you..?
2007-01-31 04:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Zenithia Victora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that teaches you that you need to live in the moment, and if you want something go for it because it may not always be there, at least you will know for next time.
2007-01-31 04:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by caralinar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋