shes been living with this fella whos 20 years older,they drink all day long and fight wen they got no booze,he wont let her put the heating on wen its cold and he wont let her out of his sight.ive tried to get her to leave even to come and stay with me,but she always got an exuse not to leave him.she 37 wat can i do ?
2007-01-30 19:54:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your sister is 37. She is a legal adult. She is in an abusive low situation and this is a pity but you cannot force her to do anything unless she wants to do it. You do not mention if he brutalizes her or treats her as a slave etc.
All you can do is be there for her when she needs you. Inevitably this man will do something to push her too far or she will come to her senses (Pray for this) and need you then. Sadly, women do not reach this point until they have been put into the hospital at least once.
I know it must cause you pain to see this happening to someone you love dearly, but we were all put on this earth to walk our own path and this is the one she has chosen for now. Unless this man begins to brutalize her and the law is involved, there truly is little you can do but offer support. Pray to the God of your choice that she survives. Due to some twisted logic, some people actually LIKE being in dysfunctional relationships. I just hope there are no children involved.
OK OK I just reread your note and saw something I had not seen before. "he will not let her out of his sight". She is frightened of him. Any man who goes to that extreme of possessiveness is usually a very sick controlling individual. But that still does not change a thing, it is her choice to stay. Just keep an eagle eye on the situation and be there for her. If you see things that are wrong, black eyes, etc.. keep note of everything in case the law gets involved.
That is about it ... best of luck.
2007-01-30 20:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
shes 37..so theres nothing u can really do. just be around and be ready to tell her"i told u so!"
2007-01-31 04:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by wallflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a bit tricky, i have similar situation with my bf ! but its just that love is blind, OR its that we "women" are so desperate !!!
i guess the best is to make her discover it by herself through a friend, usually sisters dont listen to each other ! you can find a friend who she trust to do this for you.
2007-01-31 04:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely nothing !
2007-01-31 04:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by RJ2K1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... u're sister isn't brainwashed... she's just being a martyr for that guy she's with! i think she's abused!
2007-01-31 07:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by CB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE sounds brain washed.
2007-01-31 03:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant do anything except be there for your sis when she needs you
2007-01-31 03:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋