For any girl that has ever been beaten up by her boyfriend: Do you think studying martial arts would of helped

Question

And would you consider doing it now? I think that all women should learn to take care of themselves as it can be a horrible world out there.

The whole point about martial arts is that a small amount of force, precisely applied, can deflect large and powerful attacks. Thus allowing little chinese guys or women, for example, to beat up suposidly big and strong people. One could call it the science of fighting and self defense. Not wanting to pick out any particular one but some styles, like Wing Chun, don't have any flashy kicks.

I also believe that it teaches some emotional qualities to make one strong of mind as well, but to be honest i never thought about that side of domestic abuse when i was writting the question :(

Answer 1

well, i've never been beated up but I think that a girl; should learn martial arts anyway.
tht way it'll be good for her health and she can protect herself from anyone trying to hurt her.

Answer 2

It may help you defend yourself ,no doubt!
But what use is a relationship after, one person commits an act of violence against the other?
You may as well just pack up and leave.
All the sorries hugs and promises to never do it again can never ever wipe out that memory.
The respect has gone and the love is always doubted.
There is only one thing left you can be sure of,it will happen again!
If I ever found myself,again,in a relationship where the person I trusted above everyone, hurt me with intention.
I would not stay long enough for them to get back up of the floor, where they belong!

Answer 3

Learning Martial-Arts for self-defense and as healthy activity is a great thing for everyone! However, when you are talking about dating and relationships, that becomes trickier. There is also a matter of mental health. Not only should everyone protect themselves physically at all times, they should as well mentally. If you know someone who has been abused and needs help, call 1-800-799-7233 (safe) or http://www.ndvh.org .

For education on domestic violence you can refer to http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

Answer 4

First of all, martial arts is useless if you're trying to protect yourself. It only works if you're up against someone who is using the same martial arts as you are. A flying round house kick is pretty useless in a tiny bedroom while you're being choked from behind. Women need to take self defense; this lets you learn how to protect yourself and cause the most damage with the least amount of force. All women whould take self defense. Not just for those women who are being abused, but for simple protection from thugs trying to rape, rob, or hurt women.

Answer 5

It might have helped 8 years ago when I was in an abusive relationship but I doubt it and who really knows now...I was foolish and emotionally unstable so I think even if I was wonder woman I still wouldn't have been able to fight back. It doesn't matter anymore though, I have a wonderful boyfriend of almost 4 years who would never hurt me:) He is my protector! Hehe, I just wish he was a bit more romantic...sigh...

Answer 6

Well, it did for me. When he went to hit me, I did an upward block and caught him between his thumb and index finger. It broke his thumb. Then when I was going out the door, he grabbed me by the front of my shirt, and I executed a perfect kick to the groin. It was classic.

Problem is, you can know how to defend yourself physically, but unless you know how to defend yourself emotionally, you aren't going to kick his sorry behind. Abuse is more than physical, it's a mental state where you allow yourself to be convinced you deserve the abuse, or that it's somehow your fault. Until you can take some "mental" martial arts, the physical ones are only useful if you'll use them.

Answer 7

All of the self defense classes in the world are not going to help a women that stays with a partner that beats her. It is not about physical strength... it is about self respect, self-esteem and emotional strength.
I do agree with you about women needing to know how to take care of themselves thought, it can be a horrible world out there and unfortunately, women are often he targets of violent crime.

Answer 8

Its good for women to know martial arts. But what's impt is the application of the skill when it's required and a calm mind to conquer. There was a case in the country where I live that a woman who has black belt in Karate was raped. She had all the skills in her hands but at the moment where she had to use it to save herself, she just lost it. I agree with Jesse in this case. Man are much more stronger than woman physically but definitely any woman can escape the fate of getting beaten if she is emotionally strong.

Answer 9

If you are still in the relationship:

Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
Keep change with you at all times.
Memorize all important numbers.
Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
Think about what you will say to your partner if he\she becomes violent.
Remember, you have the right to live without fear and violence.

If you have left the relationship:

Change your phone number.
Screen calls.
Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the batterer.
Change locks, if the batterer has a key.
Avoid staying alone.
Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
Vary your routine.
Notify school and work contacts.
Call a shelter for battered women.

If you leave the relationship or are thinking of leaving, you should take important papers and documents with you to enable you to apply for benefits or take legal action.

Important papers you should take include social security cards and birth certificates for you and your children, your marriage license, leases or deeds in your name or both yours and your partner's names, your checkbook, your charge cards, bank statements and charge account statements, insurance policies, proof of income for you and your spouse (pay stubs or W-2's), and any documentation of past incidents of abuse (photos, police reports, medical records, etc.)

Answer 10

I'm not a girl. Use your brain not force. If he is drunk do not argue with him. if he hits you once you should have left him long ago.Leave him now do not stay. He probably gave you warning signs before that he was this way. No matter what leave him do not get pregnant and put a child through this.