I don't mean to offend anyone here. But my and my Mother don't really get along. I am 23/m and she is so overprotective and she smothers me to death. How am I supposed to tell her that I don't love her? I mean I do "like" my Mom but I don't love her. I appreciate some of the stuff that she does though. I am not happy with her ill conceived right wing ultra conservative politics. How am I supposed to get along with her? I'm thinking about moving accross the country in order to limit contact with her.
2007-01-30 19:34:12 · 8 answers · asked by AviTech 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Move out of her house.
2007-01-30 19:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, Done that, And I live across the county from my mother. The truth is you will always love your mother no matter what that is just how it is. You can dislike her forever though. I didn't talk to my mother for almost 1 year. Then it hit me what if she dies what would I do. So I called her. She still doesn't have my number nor knows where I live. Of course she has tried to get it and has gotten mad but it is my life I am old enough to do with it what I see fit for my peace of mind. I think you should feel the same way.
2007-01-31 03:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still live with her? I agree that little distance would be a good thing. At 23 it's time for you to have some space. Across country might be overkill.
No one would expect you to agree with her politics, but you've got to expect that she'll have an opinion. And while you're at home, you're going to be smothered with it.
Don't overdo things here. Mom will be getting much smarter in about 7 years.
2007-01-31 03:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son who is going to be 27. We were BEST friends while he was growing up. Then, he met the love of his life while at college. Now, he can't talk to me. I have tried everything to be part of their lives and it always gets twisted around. Your Mom may be "overprotecting" due to fears that she has in losing you, because you are getting older. Have you tried just sitting her down and gently talking to her about her being overprotecting? You should NEVER tell her you don't like her. No matter how bad of a mother she may have been, she chose to give you life and I promise, she did give up some things she wold have liked to had to raise you. I hope that down deep you do love her, maybe just don't like some of her ways. Just tell her that in order for you 2 to continue to be "close", she needs to give you space to breath and the freedom to make your own choices.
PLEASE, don't ever give up on your Mother. My heart has been broke for 6 years and it has literally changed who I was. No one will ever love you as unconditionally as your Mom.
2007-01-31 10:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by BigHearted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very sad. You dont always have to agree with her on issues & it seems she loves you very much.
I am a mother & I know if my child said he didnt love me i would just die.
Mothers arent perfect we carry our children...spend our lives raising & protecting them.
We can't just stop on your 18th Birthday..that love & wanting to protect you is built into us from the moment we become pregnant.
Give mom a break hun, she really means well.
Talk to her & just tell her she needs to let you grow up but that you will always need her.
Because it's true a child no matter the age always needs their parents.
2007-01-31 08:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your mother you don't love her.. It hurts mother.. Esp your mother.. Your mother's overprotective because she loves you so much.. Don't break her heart.. Maybe it's better if you say that you dont like her... I also agree, you should move out..
2007-01-31 04:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by Pianoholic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you say, you are 23... :)
You don't have to say anything......you wouldn't "like" hurting her, even if you don't love her (the same thing with the other women relationships in your life).
2007-01-31 03:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mitchiko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hallo there,best ways for us to be happy is to love people who mistreated us,always to find exuses to others.in case of parents never blme them always find exuses to them,this is god wish ,tell them francly what disturbs u and they may understand if not still never hurt thier feeling try to accept things as they are becouse we dont choose our parents this god wish we have to try to to have a good relation with them if i tell u what mine did to me and how i helped them u wont belive it is a long story do love ur enemies.
2007-01-31 03:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by free r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋