getting scared, stress ,more fights ???? is that normal before getting married?
2007-01-30 19:27:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Dear Mean Bibi,
I'm hoping that the time during your engagement was less stressful and that you had less confrontations with your fiance!
As the wedding date approaches, it's perfectly normal to become stressed out and even have thoughts of backing out. Cold feet is common, don't sweat it.
I do suggest that you sit down, and weigh everything out in your mind one more time before you go and make a commitment. That commitment is supposed to be for a lifetime and you are making a covenant with that person. You cannot enter into a marital relationship with doubts. If you are truly content with the thought of being with this man for the rest of your days, then don't sweat the present nervousness. If you have doubts, then it might be a good idea to postpone your wedding for a little while until you get things sorted out. Let me tell you, it's easier to do this now, and to be sure, then to sift through the wreckage of an impending divorce!
Best wishes!
2007-01-30 19:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by C J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Things were rough for us before the wedding and for about a month after the honeymoon as we adjusted to living in each others' space but since then things have been fine. You're both under a lot of stress, extra fights are completely normal, and of course you're scared, both your lives are about to change.
2007-01-30 19:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure! both of you are going under stress of starting a new life together, scared of the unknown, plus eventually the stress of planning and organizing a wedding...
it's all normal, and once you'll get married, you'll laugh about it.
that is as long as you're not fighting on principles... if you have a coomon goal, there should be no problem.
2007-01-30 19:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by Nadinette 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is if you are really worried maybe you should hold off for awhile. I didn't get cold feet my husband and I were friends for a long time before we got married so everything just felt like it was supposed to be that way. Good Luck and Congratulations.
2007-01-30 19:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would worry if i did not get cold feet... one should be positive and that means looking at the relationship working and dissolving... reality has no guarantees... life is scary... but a person getting married is giving up one life for the unknown... so why shouldn't a person have insecurities and doubts at the last minute... but they will dissolve upon the last i do... forever is a long long time...
2007-01-30 19:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by sassyalleycat55 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very natural. Just make sure if you decide not to get married, tell the person you are getting married to and not just stand them up. If do get married then there is nothing to worry about and you can forget all about it. No one needs to know.
2016-03-28 21:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This "cold feet" you are experiencing is very normal indeed...
It just means you are considering if you are making the right move in your life, and you are trying to make sure this is the right decision for you...
Everyone goes through this and it will pass as you get nearer to the wedding date and all your plans are in order...
2007-01-30 19:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck, I get cold feet thinking about getting married.
2007-01-30 19:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by Morrigan 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
only if you aren't 100 percent sure you are doing the right thing
2007-01-30 22:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No dont get married! u have that then no me and my hubby were not at all nervious and still married and never fight! think about it!
2007-01-30 19:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋