I am a little heavy... bout 30 pounds over wieght, and I have just started dating a man that has only dated women that were very skinny or very well built. I put on my wieght about 3 years ago, use to were a 9 or smaller and now am in a 16. I don't like it and plan on loosing the weight, but why would a man date only those kind of girls and then date me? His only answer to my question is that I am very sweet and nice. He never says that he thinks I am sexy or pretty. He has seen pictures of me from 3 years ago and asked why I would "let my self go", and I did tell him. He also said he would help me get back in shape... But my main question is, Why would he go from dating onlly skinny girls and then be interested in me?
2007-01-30 19:20:04 · 23 answers · asked by next.... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he probably realized that appearances aren't everything. i know a lot of girls that are skinny but their hearts are ugly as a 500 pound fat man in a tub of lard.
2007-01-30 19:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got the goods girl! Obviously you must be a good looking gal. It does hurt though not to hear how sexy or pretty you are. It has got to be hard for you to know about how he use to date "skinny" girls but honey beauty is only skin deep. There might not be any connection in the body type...it just might have happened to be they were all "skinny" ya know!?
I buy what he says about why he likes you. There is nothing wrong with that!
I hope this isn't the topic of conversation too often. You shouldn't dwell on it n neither should he. He chose you the way you are... not to change you. You should change you for you n not for him. Cuz what if you didn't lose weight and maybe even gained weight? What would happen then!?
Best Wishes & God Bless!
2007-01-30 19:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by tr95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the guy you are dating knows you have potential. If you are friendly and already sweet, maybe the guy is seeing your beauty from the inside.
But let's get this straight.
Because you are a girl, you are very sensitive in how you look. It's only natural since I am a girl too. I too complain that I am overweight but people love me for who I am. However; In the inside, I feel like a lump.
I suggest that you and I eat less (or eat sensibly) and excercise more. It will build up our self-esteem and in the process,we will feel that we are better looking than our boyfriend's exes.
Good luck and wish me luck too.
2007-01-30 19:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sees potential and likes your personality. You said it yourself: He doesn't tell you you're sexy or pretty because you're fat and out of shape; 30lbs is NOT a 'little' heavy!
He offered to help you get back to "sexy and pretty" and instead of doing that for yourself and a guy you like that you know has a different ideal, you're questioning his motives! What do YOU want? To remain overweight and alone, or try and get everything you want and look good to everybody else in the offing? Wake up and grab the brass ring...
2007-01-30 19:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he realised beauty is only skin deep. Maybe he was hurt emotionaly buy one of the skinny girls and it hurts to much to go back. Most probably what he says is true. He thinks your sweet and nice and thats enoufe. If you want lose the weight but do it for yourself, it dosent sound like this guy is that hung up on looks. (Not that im saying plump girls are ugly. Personaly i cant stand skinny girls im always worried ill break them.)
Hope this helps.
2007-01-30 19:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jarvis P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just got tired of bone or sticks. LOL. Nah! seriously, U probably have a great personality that surpasses skinny bone jones.............. sometimes guys change their minds about their taste. A curvier body always gets more attention. Its like guys are attracted to woman with voluptios shapes unconciously but society sometimes mocks them for talling for tubbies. Honestly, I'm overweight and I'm in ur same situation, my man use to be with skinny girls but he shows me that he still loves me although I'm size 16. I can tell he likes my big hips and boob. Those are the parts that turn him on.
2007-01-30 19:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Junia Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are about proximity and availablity. You are available and close. He probably honestly cares for you, now. I've never dated a large girl but I probably would if things sort of fell into place the right way. Most guys don't care as much about looks as we lead on. My girlfriend is very pretty but I would still be with her if she gained 50 pounds. I might be concerned but I'd still love her.
2007-01-30 19:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Danny O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 08:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you will get skinny like in your pictures. He will never be happy with you until you are thin again. Better start dieting if you want to keep him. The saying "more cushion for the push'n" is a myth. Men like tiny girl so they look big next to her.
2007-01-30 19:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He did tell you did'nt he? He likes your personality, thats a good thing. Plus,it sounds like you have something going on in the 'mind' department. It sounds like you are looking for a reason that he SHOULD'NT date you. Maybe the so-called skinny girls were stuck on themselves and you are not. He sees something in you that you do not. Sounds like that whatever happens in your relationship, he will help you to discover some good qualities in yourself that you did not know existed.
2007-01-30 19:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋