I'm a 25 yrs old woman who has not been in a real relationship for nearly two years now. Sometimes, i find relationships choking, so i really don't think i'm missing anything being unattached. I used to describe myself as a free-agent, in other words i go out on date with anyone i fancy (generally, no sex involved) & end it anytime the novelty of the meeting wears off. I enjoy my life more like that; i know i flirt a lot but as i don't sleep with these men i think it's harmless. I set my boundries & when they violate it, i stop answering their calls. But, now i'm thinkin of dating again. There's a guy i fancy, but i fear my flirtatious ways may have presented a wrong impression of me. If i tell him i love him, i doubt he'd believe me or take me seriously because of that. What should i do?
2007-01-30 19:03:54 · 4 answers · asked by Hmmm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really like a guy it should be easier to stop flirting as much and start to be serious about him, but a little flirting doesn't hurt.
2007-01-30 19:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Nathan G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're what's known in male circles as a 'tease'. Some teasing can be cute, but when it gets to be serial teasing as what you described in your question, it could be dangerous for both you and a new relationship. First thing you need to do is decide what it is you're going to do...like a game of cards or a job, you must know your own limitations and strengths; and if you find that you're applying your old habits and 'runaway bride' standards to every new man you want to date, then you need to re-train yourself to act like a grown woman and not a spoiled child. It's that simple.
2007-01-30 19:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start dating again. If you want to impress this guy, then you have too make your self a little more not available. Not too flirtatious ways need to be brought down a notch. Take it show and do the most comfortable thing. Good luck.
2007-01-30 19:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Midwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatsoever a (wo)man soweth, that shall (s)he also reap. You might want to tone down for a while, perhaps? Men are not pieces of meat on a shelf that you examine and toss at a whim. You do that and you might wind up being sorry in a few years for not having reaped anything.
2007-01-30 19:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋