We met online on a chat site and i somehow feel attracted to her, we haven't met yet. They have been going out for 6 years now, i told her that i am attracted to her and she responed by saying she likes me too. Should i go after her?
2007-01-30 19:02:07 · 37 answers · asked by lacoste 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guy code says that if she is not dating one of your friends and she is interested than it is ok. If she shows interest than she may be close to a break up anyway and if it is not to be with you than maybe somebody else later. But make sure before you commit that she is leaving the boyfriend cause if she wants to be with him and you that is not fair to you if you are serious about her.
2007-01-30 21:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by bobbybacala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with one short answer no
why??
ok
first you are taking what remain from others lol
second the most important thing that in all your life you will still think what she will do if she met him again - how is your feeling if she compare between you and him - you will be gellous all time if she have any thing from him or any gift remind her to him - and also you will be afraid that she will do the same and leave you for another and because of that you will never say no for her and you will lose your personality just to keep her with you and stop people to say that you lost her or she left you so you will try to do all what she want and you never make her happy because . . . girls never forget the first love what ever it was bad but the first kiss and the first hug will be in thier minds forever, so please just be away from that kind of relation as much as you can, BUT
may be she is realy in a very very bad relation with her BF and he is beating her or giving her hill times so you can be the one who protect her or gave her some care. this is the only case you can be near her other than that RUN my dear and find the one who was created just for you and only you.
Take care man
2007-01-30 19:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mind of Ideas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one! I think sometimes people are stuck in relationships and need to move on. Sounds like she is possibly in one of those sticky situations. If it wouldn't bother you....than I would say go for it! Be careful not to hold this against her...just get to know her.
I am not one who would usually answer that you should go for a gal w/a boyfriend. Cuz the idea is that if she did it to him....she could do it to you too!! But 6 yrs is a long time and in my opinion if she doesn't have a ring on her finger by now...it might be one of them situations where a person kinda gets "stuck" in a relationship.
But if y'all start dating or going out or whatever...I would definitely get to know her and make it a point to get more details out of her. You don't want to put too much into a relationship w/a girl who cheats either! So just be careful!
Best Wishes!
2007-01-30 19:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by tr95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, put yourself in this girl's boyfriend's shoes and answer honestly, how would you feel if another guy starts going after your girlfriend?
Secondly, if this girl could easily agree to go out with you while she already has a boyfriend, how sure are you she will not do the same to you.
Lastly commitment and self-control is what makes the difference in relationships, we do not simply go out with anyone we are attracted to - trust me, even when you are in already in a relationship you will always meet others that you are attracted to - hence the need to exercise self-control and determination to focus on, cherish, and love the one you are in a relationship with.
2007-01-30 19:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by vusimhl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What---are you looking for trouble? With all the women out there, why go after a taken one? I think it isn't a girl--just a twisted big fat man looking for a guy like you--sounds like trouble to me..get off the computer, get a hobby or a job and start talking face to face with nice young women. There really is an issue here that doesn't make sense--why would she cheat with you? Sounds like a dangerous game here--better wise up and lose this contact before you get grabbed--I'm serious.
2007-01-30 19:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she has a bf, it is inappropriate for you to "go after" her. However, if she agrees, you can start seeing her, having a drink, do lunch don't hurt. Becoming a friend to her doesn't break up her relationship with her bf! Moreover she's not married! You are merely giving her more options before she decides! Wouldn't it be good if she finds happiness in you more so than the other?
2007-01-30 19:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Troy Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the 400 pound guy sitting there pretending to be a cute girl would love to have you go after "her".
Just kidding (I hope). In all honesty, no you should not go after her as long as she is in a relationship. For one thing, chatting on-line does not translate to real world compatibility. For another, if she is willing to start something with you while in another relationship, how will you ever have confidence she won't do the same to you. If she indicates she is interested in pursuing something with you, tell her that you are willing as long as she breaks it off with her current boyfriend.
2007-01-30 19:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't right...6 years is a long time....you only met her through the net...you haven't even met her yet and all that you feel is attraction.she should know better.but then life is full of UPS and Downs so you're not the one to blame...it's way better if you just maintain a casual relationship as friends....
but at the end of the day..its up to you...
so all the best
2007-01-30 19:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to go after her, just keep being her friend. You don't want to break up her relationship. However, if she's chatting with other guys online ike that things must not be real solid in that relationship. If she eventually breaks it off with the guy on her own, then you can start pursuing her, but if you try to convince her to leave him for you you're just going to end up being the bad guy.
2007-01-30 19:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by Hamlette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure thing, You sound as if you deserve to get with a girl who is cheating on her boyfriend by hooking up with you after meeting you online. I thought you just asked a question about why women aren't nice to nice guys. You are willing to help break up a 6 year relationship with a woman who cheats. This doesn't sound very nice to me.
2007-01-30 19:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋