I am planning on having 10 bridesmaids..
Is that going to look stupid?
2007-01-30 18:37:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've already asked the 10.. I can't take back the offer.. can I?
2007-01-30 18:47:40 · update #1
well, that is exactly the number i had and no, it doesn't look stupid, it is just too chaotic! If possible, and you haven't asked them all yet, maybe you could ask some of them to do a reading or help escort people and stuff like that so that no one feels left out! however, if you want that many or have yo paln it around your hubby's groomsmen, then go for it! It just really is a lot of mass confusion! If I could change it, I would just have had my best friend and a couple others! No matter what though, just have fun and enjoy the day! Congratulations!
2007-01-30 18:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion 10 is a high number. If everyone that you love is in the wedding who is in the seats.
When you are pick the number of bridesmaids, keep this in mind...
1. You have to get a gift for each one of them. Most gift range from 10.00 to 50.00 each. (And the groom has to do the same.)
2. Your groom has to come up with a number close to that too. It will look odd having 10 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen.
3. You are paying for the flowers for everyone in your wedding party. Male and female.
4. The guest count will be higher. REALLY! Check this out. You have 10 bridesmaids they might all bring a date or their partners to your wedding. Now you are at 20. If you have only 4 bridesmaids, they will bring a date now you are at 8.
As for the other 6:
A. They might not come if they are not "IN" the wedding. (But they will send a gift)
B. They might come with someone you are inviting anyways.
5. Intimate family style weddings are in.
Happy Wedding :)
As for the girls you asked already just tell them you are cutting the number because of your budget and they will understand. But make sure you express to them how much it will mean to you to have them there!
2007-01-31 03:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by alysiallen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was at a wedding that had 8 each, and everyone that was watching was grumbling by the time the wedding started. Some people were laughing as each new one appeared to walk down the isle. IF you keep 10, then have them walk down in pairs, and have the guys all up at the front already with the groom. Don't have each guy and girl walk down together, that would be crazy. IF you decide to par down your number, just explain to those you are "cutting" that you have realized that you need to par down the wedding. Maybe try to figure out something else for them to do. I would cut at least half though, so some girls are not feeling singled out. OR you could get them all together, if you feel the same about all them, and say X is my maid/matron of honor, and I'm going to draw 5 more names, and that's that. Then there are no hard feelings.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 10:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Amy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends completely on the size of your wedding and on the size of the venue in which it will be held. You do need to have a groomsmen for each bridesmaid. I've seen weddings with six bridesmaids that were lovely, but I've never seen anyone with ten. Make sure that you can handle the stress this will add to your big day (hopefully they all get along).
2007-01-31 11:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations on your wedding. I think you have to keep in mind that this is your big day and that you should be allowed to do as you wish. Personally i have way to many people in my life not to have a big number of bridesmaids. However i think you should keep in mind that your bridesmaids do not out-number the groomsmen. Other than that i don't think it will look stupid. I think it shows how man people in your life are important to you. But if you think it might be to much then i only keep those people who are absolutely vital to the wedding party but also keep in mind how many grooms men your husband would like to have as well because if you have 10 bridesmaids and your husband only has 5 groomsmen then it may pressure him to find five more guys ...possibly those people he don't even really care about. All in all...find a balance...do what you want....and just enjoy.
2007-01-31 02:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by K. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went to my cousin's wedding a few years ago and his wife-to-be had 14 bridesmaids (same number of groomsmen, of course) and it was absolutely beautiful. 10 doesn't sound too bad to me. Personally, I don't know ten girls to be my bridesmaids (I'll probably have about 5 when I get married, but most would be family), so I consider you to be a very lucky person to have so many people that close to you.
Good luck with the wedding!
2007-01-31 11:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is too many. There's an old rule of thumb that you should have one bridesmaid for every 50 guests, and then the maid of honor. I think it will look wierd. But, you already asked, so there isn't much you can do about that.
2007-01-31 12:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's overkill. My cousin just got married to a girl who had 9 bridesmaids, so my cousin felt he had to choose 9 groomsmen. Everyone at the wedding made fun of the bridal party all night long. It wasn't right of them to do that, but just be aware that it might happen to you.
2007-01-31 12:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! 10 is a lot! I have seen bridal parties that lage, and it does look a little over the top. I would suggest having just your maid of honor and best man stand with you, and seat the rest of the wedding party so the front of the church isn't flooded with people.
2007-01-31 14:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many "Best" friends do you have? If you want to have your wedding like a circus- I would go with 10. Honestly- how many of them, get along with all of the others? Especially in that time of stress and excitement.
Personally, the fewer the better.
2007-01-31 02:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Nick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋