How do you get past hating people who abused you early in life? Yes, we've prayed but this is VERY difficult for my friend to get over. I think he's trying to understand why this occured early in his life. He can't understand why the emotional and physical abuse happened in the first place.
It's sad to watch him struggle with resolving this issue day in and day out. How would you advise him if he were your friend? I'm at my wits end trying to help. I can't explain, I wasn't there but the sadness in him makes me sad. I am empathetic.
2007-01-30 18:20:57 · 6 answers · asked by TygerLily 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
He's making himself sick, when he does sleep, he says that he has nightmares, his appetite is strange, only wants carbs. In brief, he's miserable. I only want to help him.
2007-01-30 18:22:34 · update #1
The abuser was probably in pain (inside) and took it out on your friend. The prayer that changed my life was when I asked God to seperate me from my past. It is still there but your friend may get to realize he is a nice guy who can live a nice life...and as for the carb-only thing this occurs because of having a lot on your mind and being tired and stressed. Carbs turn into sugar in your body, therefore giving you a boost and endurance. The song "Fall Away" by the Fray is very helpful as well. Hope I could help...oh tell him I care and am praying for him.
2007-01-30 18:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget? easier said than done..! You can forgive but you will never forget.. There is no simple answer, why do people abuse someone?
Why even try to understand what someone did to you to hurt you, physically and mentally? Hate is such a strong word, Hate is justified....
Thank God your friend lived through it, and let him know this.... Don't try and understand the reasons behind such cruelty, there are NO reasons... accept what has happened, and move on - build your life and make it as happy as you can... be proud of who you are, and what you are... Don't dwell on the past - move for a bright happy future...
2007-01-30 18:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Psychologist advice that you take a notebook and write down your grief. In that way he will find relief. After a week, go over the notebook and see how will he laughed. Tell him to write a memoir and use the sad experience if he wants to become a writer. All great writers have traumatic childhood. He must use it and become successful.. Those sweep of life is a blessings. After all what is living if we dont experience frustrations? To prove my statement, click on fiction writing.
2007-01-30 18:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by wilma m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to read Bible it will help him spiritually. Go to any prayer meetings or go to any congregation that will pray over him. He needs to tell someone what he feels and the history of his abuse. I know how he feels I've been there before. He needs someone who will listen to him and who could tell him that it's not his fault that he was abuse. He needs someone professional to explain the situation that his been through.
2007-01-30 18:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by teylor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Block 'em out with a track or only 'nya nya.' If it helps they decrease with age. As you replace into much less stricken what human beings think of of of you. as long as you do no longer think of of somebody else is putting them there you're sane;
2016-11-23 16:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by carper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to go to formal therapy then how about a trauma survivor support group, it might not be that hippie dippie. maybe some might meet in a bar. check out www.meetup.com
He needs to get out and have some fun too!! Get out of his environment once and awhile and try to socialize.
2007-01-30 19:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by Roan22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋