I am 28 years old and I am currently living in Sweden, where I have been dating a great Swedish guy for the past 17 months, but I am thinking about breaking up with him because things are getting too serious since he has been talking about getting married lately, I love him sooooo much but I just don't think I could ever settle down. How can I get over being a serial dater and just settle down ?
Details:
-I am 28 and my boyfriend is 30, I am turning 29 in March !
-This is the longest relationship I have ever been in
-I have lived in the US(I am an American), Italy, France, and now Sweden
-I have dated more men then I can count :(
-My average relationship last about 3 months, then I usually dump them
-I have been proposed to 4 times
-I was engaged once for two months and then broke up with him
-I really want to have a husband and children (Many of my friends already do !!!)
-I am just nervous about getting married because I always feel like there might be something better
2007-01-30 18:01:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you for everyones help and sorry my question is so long :)
2007-01-30 18:02:38 · update #1
I suggest considering some or all of the following online ses of articles. They are designed to help you both think & learn about the subjects they cover ...
How to Succeed in Marriage? :
- Are You Thinking About Marriage?
- What Is Needed for a Successful Marriage?
- Large Families United in God's service
http://watchtower.org/library/w/1999/2/15/article_01.htm
Wholesome Communication--A Key to a Good Marriage
- What Wholesome Communication Involves
- Obstacles to Wholesome Communication
- How to Promote Wholesome Communication
- "Wholesome communication helps bind hearts in lasting love."
http://watchtower.org/library/w/1999/7/15a/article_01.htm
Why View Marriage as Sacred?
- Love and Respect
- Time and Attention
- Avoid a Casual View
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/5/8a/article_01.htm
Alone but Not Lonely :
- Why So Many Lonely People?
- When No One Will Ever Feel Lonely Again
- What You Can Do About Loneliness http://watchtower.org/e/20040608/article_01.htm
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2007-01-30 18:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know i am only 18 but i know how you feel in a way.
That feeling of something better could come along eating at your stomach.
My relationships last 3 months then i dump them
What if they cheat or this doesnt last?
I have been proposed to with ring and all 3 times
.......
anywho good luck with love
2007-01-30 18:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by Atllas 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess you just aren't ready, or maybe life is telling you that you really haven't found the right one yet. And since you seem quite the jetsetter, its not surprising that you move on alot.
Someone once told me that you often have to go through alot of wrong partners to find the right one. I think its true. I'm sure that when the time comes, you will know when you have found him and you won't hesitate.
2007-01-30 18:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by loza500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there are one of two possible answers.
Either (a) you really are not 'in love' with this guy, You may love him, but these are two vastly different states to be in.
or (b) you just prefer being single and having the choice of meeting someone one every so often.
Often we dont realise if we're really in love with someone until too late. Just because you want children does not mean you should settle for someone who may not be 'the one' for you.
2007-01-30 18:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by stack888 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't settle down because you're still having a good time. Just admit that to yourself and you'll be fine with everything else.
2007-01-30 18:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you aren't ready, you just aren't ready. I truely believe that when we find the right person for us, we will do anything to be with that person. Perhaps you just haven't found that person yet. It is better to be single for the right reasons than married for the wrong ones.
2007-01-30 18:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your just one of those millions of people that are scared of committments. you just have to convince yourself that you are ready to settle down no matter what may happen in the relationship. good luck :)
2007-01-30 18:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your still young and when you find the right person you will know it. i think your doing the right thing, shop around til you find the one that you love and want to spend life with.. good luck
2007-01-30 18:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by COUNTRY GIRL 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋