should one change for his loved one?

Question

i always come across people who want me to change according to them. but i m confussed but i love them

Answer 1

U should never have to change for anybody. If they don't love u for u, then u need to find someone who does.

Answer 2

i am going through the same thing. u dont want anyone, u or them to change, but it happens. u have to be careful that u dont change too much, or u wont know who u are anymore. Love can make u do strange things, that u usually wouldnt have done. But u gotta hang on to who u are, because deep down u want to be loved for being you. It is hard though cuz no one is perfect. Everyone has to change a little...

Answer 3

Like true friends, you love the one you're with for who they are - the good & the bad. You grow and adapt together. However, depending on the circumstances, some may have to change or atleast learn to meet in the middle.

Answer 4

The whole problem with making changes to please someone is that you have too much to remember. Unless you are a mean or maybe sloppy person, you cannot help who you are. relax--you will meet someone who likes you just the way you are.I hope you are a person who is mature, self confident and respectful---a good listener and willing to be helpful--that would be a real nice start--no need to be concerned about those attributes. Of course being a communicator is very nice---communicate that you are happy with yourself and it is too bad you cannot see them anymore. Good luck

Answer 5

you should never have to change for someone especially the one you are with. being in love is a lot more than physical attraction or even having things in common. its about commitment and understanding, and most of all looking over tiny flaws or imperfections since we all have them ourselves. change is all in ourselves and if you wanted to change you would right? so keep your chin up and find some good people who will accept you for who you are and not what they want you to be.

Answer 6

Hi,
This is human nature every one wants that others should change them self according to their needs/likings but they do not wants to change them self according to the others liking.
In your case listen to their suggestion do the analysis and if it gives you an advantage implement it other wise just ignore .

Enjoy Life

Dr.Mojo

Answer 7

Never change for anyone, only yourself. If you are with someone and they mention something that you need to work on and you see it to then great you both win. But if you mean change in order to stay with you or love you or I'll leave if you don't, don't even dare. You have your own mind and feelings and never let anyone take them away. Stay strong

Answer 8

You should never settle for a person that does not love you for who you are. If you keep "falling in love" with anyone that gives you attention and are willing to sacrifice who you are in order to get this so called love then maybe you should get some counseling to figure out why you have slipped into this pattern... it is not healthy.

Answer 9

It depends on the change. If it's reasonable, then yes. But if it's something you can't maintain or that isn't you, then no. Will it cause resentment? Is it fair of him to ask that of you? What changes has he made for you? Answer those questions first I guess.

Answer 10

You are...."confussed?" Do you mean ... confused? You are confused?

It's difficult to change for others. Christ, it's hard enough for us to change for ourselves. I wouldn't go there. If he can't accept you as the package you are now, it probably won't work.