i am 38 he will be 45 in june.....6 1/2 yrs older.
seems like ok to me,,,,any older would be less in common??? what do you think?
oh,,,,and one more??? do you guys really like to spend every day with your sig. other, together??? I told him to give it a rest.....be with his friends.....that I do not need to see him every day, only because I do not want to over do it,,,,I said that as well. Your thoughts???
2007-01-30 17:30:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
age is only a number....but i think men want more companionship as they get older,so they may seem to be more" touchy - feely "type guys.. but i agree you do need your own space for a break and to relax alone.and so does he.. enjoy what ever happens,good luck
2007-01-30 17:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't do it because that's crazy old. I'm only 27 though so maybe I'll be more open minded later on in the future. I have a boyfriend who is only 2 years older, but he is so immature, maybe someone 6 yrs older would be better.
It sounds like you have a good thing going for you. I too moved for a guy, thousands of miles, and by the time I got there (or here I should say) he was no longer in love with me. I wish I could have those moments again, with someone 2 yrs older than I am, or someone 20 years. I wouldn't make the same mistake of purposely trying to distance myself and cause conflict to make the times we're together better. All the distance did was drive us further apart. Talk to him every DAY, see him every single day. Overdo it and be proud of it. You are very very lucky to have found love again, enjoy it while it lasts.
2007-01-31 01:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by blue_rose_69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm only 33, but if it really something important to you then age doesn't matter. Besides as we get older, age differences really stop being such a important consideration, don't you think? Unless it's like 20 years or something. That maybe be pushing it alittle. But onto the other part of the question. Trying to spend all your time with someone I think kinda sours a relationship, you know absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that jazz. If you try to spend all your time together, you really start to get on each others nerves (sad, but true. It's happened to me before). It's hard to tell someone you need some space without coming off as "leave me alone, okay?!" I think you were right, though. Spending some time apart makes you cherish the time you spend together all the more wonderful, don't you think?
2007-01-31 01:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm 47 and just started seeing a man who is 59. I can't believe at your age that you are freaking out about an age difference. And one that is hardly anything. 6 years? That's nothing. The biggest difference I've had is 16 years. And I've gone the other way too - dated a guy who was 13 years younger than me.
Relax and enjoy it. Yeah, I agree about the backing off thing. If he's clingy in general and you are independent, you might want to rethink the whole thing. My experience with the clingers is that they are difficult to change. They just never let up. It wouldn't work for me, but whatever floats your boat.
2007-01-31 01:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 8 years younger than me (I'm 42). Ya know, the older you get, the less important the age differences become. I like to spend a lot of my time with her, but I like to spend time with my brother (we're only 17 months apart andhave always been very close), and I like it when she spends time with her friends. Also, since I have a 7 y/o daughter from a previous marriage, she encourages, and I enjoy, spending "daddy/daughter" time together.
2007-01-31 01:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age is not an issue. If you are compatible, loving, and respectful to each other, basically, if you are truly best friends, it will work out fine.
Even best friends need some space. Do what you like together, but tolerance for separate and differing interest and/or hobbies is healthy also.
2007-01-31 01:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could go out with some oneone up to 15 years older, and possibly 20.
2007-01-31 01:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are not unusual numbers for dating. I am 43 and my husband is 43. My previous relationship was seven years and he was five years my sr.
Being married, I enjoy seeing my husband daily. Definitely. Neither of us are the type who like to go out often. When we do, it is usually together.
As far as what you told him, that's fine, as long as that's is exactly what you want and he is okay with that.
2007-01-31 01:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we do like to spend time with our best friend, lover and
chosen companion through life...
You could be 38 and he 48 and all would still be fine...
You sound like a real prize...
He is a lucky man...
I hope he appreciates what he seems to be getting...
2007-01-31 01:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
an older guy is ok.seeing every day is up to you ,but l guess you have another things to do right?so,take your time and dont rush.what you did was ok,you gotta take your time for yourself .
2007-01-31 01:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋