My husband and I are on the fence about having a 3rd child. My boys are 2.5 and 16 months and we were thinking of having a third child (a girl would be great). We just wanted to know how drastically our lives/family dynamics will change with a third. I'm fearful of middle-child syndrome, not being able to handle 3 kids going out to run erronds etc. I am especially intersted on how our lives will change once the kids are in school, with activities etc. Any advice?
2007-01-30 17:04:52 · 7 answers · asked by (drew)2 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If the third is a girl there's going to be issues of equal treatment between the sexes; you're going to hear more fights coming from the back seat of the car; each child is going to cry fowl about not having enough attention; each one will wonder who the favourite is...typical multi-child stuff. My advice: Keep things fair, do group activities to strengthen sibling bonds, as they get older, set aside one-on-one time now and then so each feels special.
2007-01-31 17:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 is better than 2...just a little more work..a lot more fun! I have 6 kids...3 boys ...2 girls and another boy ...there are 18 years between the first and the last...its the greatest...we are a party everyday and very close..now we have a girlfriend living with us and she is like another sister to the girls...I vote for a big family...it is not bad when they are young..you just get in to a rhythm...but after they get older you look back on it and say OMG how did I do that?
2007-01-30 20:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Olive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4, 2 girls first, and then 2 boys, and I wouldn't change a thing if I could have. There is just another child to love and to love you back. Everything works out fine, you may have a little more planning to do, but not much. I love all 4 of my children equally, but I like them all for totally different reasons. They are my world.
2007-01-30 18:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have quite a few friends who have 3 children and they all say the exact same thing: it isn't more work than 2. What is difficult (they say) is logistics like hotel rooms, grandparents, rental cars, etc. But you & your husband are the only ones who can decide when enough is enough. Good luck to you.
2007-01-30 22:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him how ya feel.I have three and I wish had stayed at two. Yes there is the middle child sydrome.Its a shame.
2007-01-30 17:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by bluemoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it a try-but what if you have another boy??? Three boys running around.
2007-01-30 17:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU REALLY NEED TO THINK ABOUT IT AND TALK IT OVER RIGHT TOGETHER BUT IF YOU DUE DECIDE SAVE FOR A RAINY DAY BUT IT LOOKS LIKE YOU GUYS PROBLEM NEED TIME TOGETHER.
2007-01-30 17:11:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋