Recently my bf and I broke up. We have been together for 5 years, so had most of our lives planned together. I wasnt prepared for the split and so it has hit me pretty hard. He is still living with me until he finds his own place, which adds to the confusion. I want a way to move on and start being happy again but cant think of a how to make the first step. Any suggestions?
2007-01-30 16:49:16 · 7 answers · asked by jess2fire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thankyou for the advice... think i will be taking alot of yours Mimi.. after reading what you wrote I'm gonna get up and do that all right now! LOL... be back later guys!
2007-01-30 17:05:41 · update #1
Yes, first, get him out of there. NOW! Tell him to go live with a friend or his parents. ANYWHERE but under the same roof with you.
If you weren't prepared for the split- he is obviously the one who wanted to break up. That makes HIM the one who should leave NOW.
After you get him out of the place, do something new and different to the room you slept in. Paint it if you are allowed (rental?) to a color YOU love. Get new sheets and bedding and donate your old ones to Goodwill. Take all the pictures and mementos of you two and put them in a box and store them somewhere you won't see them- like at your parents house, a storage facility, a friends house etc.
Every Sunday, get up and go out for coffee or brunch with friends or have some girlfriends over for Sunday brunch- any NEW routine that you didn't do with him.
Sign up for a class like yoga or something you have thought about but never pursued when you were together.
And when you need to process stuff, see a counselor, or get a journal and write write write. Go find the book- Writing Down The Bones. Read it. Do it.
Good luck. we have ALL been there and there is MORE in the world when you move through this.
2007-01-30 17:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi Di 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't move on until he moves out,when that happens go on living the way you are.You may want to consider moving to a new place if possible, if not, try rearranging the apartment so as to make it different from when he lived there.Go out and make new friends or find a hobby that involves being with people, things will happen eventually.
2007-01-30 17:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a vacation.....a trip to say the Caribbean, preferably Jamaica and see me. We'll go to the country for a good time and some fresh air.......LOL
No, seriously take a vacation and let your thoughts go. It's the only way.....
2007-01-30 16:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5yrs is a long time. sorry to read that but hey cheer up its not the end of the world. make him move out immediatelly and u start looking for someone new...its that simple.
2007-01-30 16:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-somebody move out
2-cry a lot
3-take it a step at a time
2007-01-30 16:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by TUNDAR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy and do good deeds for other people that will make you happy.
2007-01-30 16:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jess2fire, well with a name like that you should start doing what it means and that is if your going to fire his a.s.s then do it and give me a call
2007-01-30 16:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋