I know a guy who is going out with one of my friends, they seem ok but a couple of months ago he said that she was ugly and a dog and how could you go out with her. Now he is going out with her and i heard that he said it doesnt matter a kiss is a kiss and sex is sex doesnt matter who its with even if u need a bag. should i tell her that he said that and that he is only going out for action and if i do wat should i do if he denies it
2007-01-30 16:46:12 · 15 answers · asked by juz_6464 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A friend would definitely let a friend know these things. He sounds like a jerk, and she deserves better than that.
2007-01-30 16:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These supposed quotations from the boyfriend are not things you yourself actually heard him say, are they? Because it matters very much whether or not you were there when he said them.
Information like this will only hurt your friend, and may cause her to turn on you instead of throwing out the crappy boyfriend. Unfortunately, unless you were there and have others to back you up, this is just a rumor. And if she cares about this guy, she will probably just get mad at you, because he will deny it all - and she'll believe him. She might even accuse you of being jealous of her happiness with him. It sucks, but she will "kill the messenger".
The best thing to do in this situation is to let it go until you have some irrefutible evidence of what he has done and said. Find a friend who was there, get him to repeat it, buy a videocamera - whatever. Then, when you have proof, suggest to your friend that there might be some trouble on the way. She'll probably still get mad at you, but if you really care about her, you have to do it. Just wait to have proof before breaking her heart.
2007-01-30 16:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mysterious Gryphon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What usually happens in these situations is that the girl more than likely won't believe you or will go into denial. In addition to this, what comes around goes around and you'll be in deep water when the perpetrator gets wind of what you said. To make matters worse, because your dealing with emotions and emotions are unstable, you run the risk of severing relations with the girl in question. It's sad but it's true, i've witnessed it multiple times myself. Besides, girls are big boys too, they know the warning signs: if you play with fire then be prepared to get burnt.
2007-01-30 17:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by roger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that she needs to get away from him because he is only hurting her. If she doesn't believe you, or he denies it and she belives it, that is her problem and at least you tried. Be kind when you say it, and swear what you say is the truth and you don't want your friend hurting her, and you are just trying to do the right thing. Good Luck
2007-01-30 16:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by LALALALALALALA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you were seeing her when this" buddy" said this about her? Ever stop to think that maybe he said this to get you out of the picture so he could move in ?.Let sleeping dogs lye ..If there is no problem there certainly would be if you said something ..That said you stand to loose two "friends"Step on the toes of one to crush the otheres,?your call ! PS no friend of mine would call my girl a dog!
2007-01-30 17:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by whitewinged1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always leave a note about it. but if you are good friends with her it is up to you. considering if she is just as good of a friend as you think she is she will listen to you and the fact that you are trying to save her from furture humiliation. if she is the type who wouldn't listen just keep your trap shut and let her learn the hard way. how ever you could always ask her opinion on what she would do if that situation happened to her see what she says. if she says she would tell her friend then tell her. i think this would be the best bet
2007-01-30 16:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this girl a friend of yours?
Would you want someone to tell YOU if a guy was using YOU as Life sized masturbation tool?
If you can't bring yourself to tell her, you might tell the girl he's a dog and that she can do so much better than him.
2007-01-30 16:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi Di 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would stay out of it, like i think it really good that u r thinking of telling her and if it was me i would want to no but telling a girl that could end up in a big fite it really depends on how close u two are. and if u dont tell her then just dont encorage her to have sex with him and just act like u dont like him and all that if she asks u why u dont like him then tell her but yea
2007-01-30 16:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by cndrll_1613 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would so tell her, my friend whent throgh the same thing and i didnt tell her and she got so pissed if he denies it and she believes him over u then thats hr prob least u tried to tell her
2007-01-30 16:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kellie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if shes your friend and even it might hurt her she deserves to know this boy is doing her wong. This boy is to shallow and is immature."beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and he's just blind.
2007-01-30 16:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by Norman C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋