Advise please? Why is it that bad things happen to good people?I can honestly say that I have walked the?

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straight line in my life, I always took the good with the bad.I'm very respectful,don't sleep around,don't do drugs,I don't drink,I would give the shirt off my back if I could help someone. But something horrible happened the past few months that I didn't feel I deserved.My ex now who I was with for almost two years, we took it slow & he seemed great, good family, but he had depressive problems that he wanted to and would commit suicide b/c he got a onenight stand pregnant bf we met.Of course I helped him come to terms with it,only for him to leave me to be with the mom.They r not together anymore.But he became so cold and hurtful,I got so fed up with being taken advantage of I yelled at him to the high heavens,I even felt guilty for that. After, all came rushing back to me, his constant suicide threats,I feel he messed with my head. For once,I really thought God gave me something good in my life&it turned out horrible.To top itoff,I found out when I was ill in hospital
had 2surgeries

Answer 1

Hi Maria. Wow. What a great question and a powerful story to go with it! I have an unhelpful answer and a helpful one.

"Unhelpful" - as others have pointed out....there are no "good" people. In Mark 10:17 someone addresses Jesus as "good teacher" and he replies that none is good except God. Elsewhere the Bible says that all people do bad things at some time (Romans 3:10).

Combined with this is the idea of the Fall (Genesis 3). Humans rejected God, He gave them over to their desires, taking a step back. This allowed death and destruction to enter the world. Summary - the world is screwed up and bad things happen. This is because humans act bad. Unfortunately the bad things are not evenly "distributed" (See Luke 13:1-5).

I'm sure most people won't find this to be a satisfying answer when your life sucks. That's why there is also a helpful answer.

You see, God knows what it's like to suffer. He came to Earth as the man Jesus and lived like an ordinary human. He experienced joy, grief, contentment and loneliness. Finally, he was tortured and brutally murdered. God knows what you're going through. The best bit is it won't last! He hasn't promised us a nice life now, but He has promised us a new, perfect life in the future. All we have to do is believe Jesus died to reverse to the Fall and put our faith in him (Romans 3:21-26).

Hey, I know this is a pretty preachy entry, and long, but I pray it helps even in a small way.

Answer 2

Honey, I am sorry you've had all this stuff happen to you. I'm going to try to be as helpful as I can here. Please don't think I'm being rude. I just want to help you.

You say this guy was great, but he sure doesn't sound all that great. He got a girl pregnant on a one-night fling, and then he wanted to kill himself to get away from her? And you honestly thought he'd be there for you?
That's not to be mean, honey, that's just how an outsider would see it.
And conveniently, when he doesn't need your support anymore, he dumps you. This guy was using his "suicide threats" to coy sympathy out of you, and you fell for it. It's actually a very common thing that happens to a lot of girls. I've seen it before with my friends.
And in the middle of this, let's ask a question. Where was God in this process? Did you seek God's voice to see if this guy was really right for you? Were there friends around you telling you this guy was bad news? You say you thought God gave you something good. Did God give you that relationship, or did you want it so bad you kept it going?
I know this sounds harsh, I really do. But honey, come on, you're better than that jerk is, and from what you described, you don't need him in your life. And though God is here to help you, He won't twist your arm into staying away from bad people.
God has a good plan for you, and you need to find out what it is. I know it sounds cliche, but just start praying and seeking God, and asking His opinion about people in your life. If God is not involved, you cannot blame Him for the result.
I hope you recover from your surgeries. Take this as a wake-up call that not everyone you meet will be good to you. Brush this off, lesson learned, and go on with the rest of your life. We have all been there. It will get better, I promise.
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Answer 3

Sigh.

I am sorry to hear about your tough times. Like someone else said, the universe is infinitely indifferent to human lives.

Fortunately, there are people who do care about you and your happiness. Seek out those friends and family members. Don't be afraid to speak with a doctor or a therapist. I'm an atheist, but even reaching out to a good clergy person may help.

Be dogged in your pursuit of the truth, you owe it to yourself. And be unapologetic about your conclusions. Do not fear being unsatisfied with the answers - embrace it. And don't ever think in absolutes, be confident in your own decision making and know there is always room for your world view to evolve. Forming an opinion of the great questions of life (is there a God? Why do bad things happen to good people?) will not happen over night and is a life long investigation.

Answer 4

Co dependency is a very hard thing to grow out of but you'll be ok if you just realize that you alone are responsible for your own feelings and also that you are not responsible for anyone else's. Each is responsible for their own. I'm sorry that you've had a hard time but we do have hard lessons in life. You didn't say if you were, or if you were not, living like you were married, but either way God is breaking an unholy soul tie that has allowed the devil power over you and you need to make sure not to get involved like that again.

Answer 5

You have been through a lot. God is aware of what you've been dealing with and cares about you.

Purhaps your plight is much like Job of the Bible. (See Job 2 & 3) He too lost his children, wealth and his health..for a time. And none of it was his fault. He was a righteousman. As a reader of the story, you know what the source of his suffering is but he doesn't. His wife and 'friends' didn't support him. But he never blamed God through his suffering, even though nothing made sense.

You could read it here: http://www.watchtower.org/e/bible/index.htm

And then there are some good articles below to consider about why God has permited suffering.

Answer 6

It basically occurs. no longer something you're able to do approximately it. although, do no longer hear too lots to the docs. I even have spina bifida. My mom develop into advised I probable does no longer communicate and can have psychological themes. I graduated intense college on time with a nicely-known degree. Ipersistent. i'm in college. I artwork. now and returned docs don't be attentive to what's going to ensue until the youngster is out and could be good assessed.

Answer 7

Bad things happen... to everyone- good, bad and everything in between.

I heard once that bad things happen.. let's use me for example--because of one (or more) of these three reasons--

1) my own bad choices. I chose to try to talk on my cell phone, teach my dog and drive at the same time.... Yeah, my choices lead to the totalling of my car and the death of my dog.

2) others' bad choices. This lady chose to drive with bad brakes, she chose to not put a safe distance between my back bumper and her front bumper... and it's her bad choices that caused her to rear-end me and mess up the transmition in my car.

3) that's life. Most women have a "monthly friend" come visit. It's inconvenient, uncomfortable, anoying, and recurring. But that's just part of this life. It isn't really anyone's fault. We all have it, we all deal with it.


The secret is not what happens to you, but how you handle it. In the Bible, there is a passage where the Lord says that He purifies His people, and sits like a refiner of silver..... When silver is being refined, someone must watch it very closely, EVERY MINUTE!!!!!... Oh, and do you know how the "watcher" can tell that the refining process is complete? You can see your reflection it the liquid metal.

Jesus sits as a refiner of silver, watching us every minute, making sure that we don't get "overdone", waiting till we are so pure that He can see His reflection in us. Yeah, the refining fire is hot, it's uncomfortable, and sometimes it just plain sux!! But He's there, watching over us, waiting for us to become pure enough to show Him His image.

Answer 8

Sometimes, God uses these things to help us grow. Often times, it isn't necessarily things that we've done or didn't do. Maybe He is allowing us to go through these things so that we can witness to others.

For example, there was this church in a muslim area of Africa. A group of terrorists burst in one night and sprayed gunfire in the room. Then they threw 4 hand grenades into the crowd. One landed in the lap of a Russian Sailor, who was not a Christian. Two landed in the aisles close to one another and were smothered by two Christian teenagers. The other landed close to this woman and killed her.

The Russian Sailor was suicidal for a while because he thought no one would ever marry him. A woman from that church ended up marrying him after he became a Christian having been an atheist all his life.

The woman turned out to be the wife of a man who's father kept telling him that Christianity was fake. There was nothing to it but a bunch of myths, they don't practice what Christ practiced.

The husband went on the news broadcasts. How do you feel about these attackers? "I forgive them, just as Jesus loved me enough to forgive me and my wife of our sins. I also forgive these men."

The people of the local mosque were so moved by this man's witness that they allowed CHRISTIANS to meet inside the Mosque. The father came to his son and said, "I want you to tell me more about Jesus Christ... You have lost your wife in a worse way than I lost your mother... You know the pain that I feel... Tell me more."

So you've gone through a tough patch. "All things work together for good for those who love God." You know right now it looks like you've been dealt some hard things to deal with... But God is going to see you through... You don't fully understand it right now, but I believe God is holding out His hand and saying, "Do you trust me? I mean really trust me!"

Don't miss the blessing for what looks like a curse right now.

Answer 9

Yes sometimes good people be given by God a bad experience,because humans are tested by God through good things which make them happiness such as good subsistence or livelihood,handsome husband or beautiful wife,smart kids,more wealth and healthy and also by bad things or sadness such as bad/un enough livelihood or poor,sicknes,misery,bad character husband/wife,unloyalty friends,alcoholic or drug addicting etc
God has given us the life guide which contained what good doing s that should be done by humans and what bad doings that should be avoided by humans.Good things and bad things are different in Torakh/Taurat,Bible/Injil and Qur'an.Such as eating bacon or pig meat is prohibited for muslims but for christians it is allowed.Gambiling, and adultering or fornification are prohibited for muslims and if we do that we will have a great sin.Living together between a man and a woman without formal marriage according to islamic teaching is included in fornification because this situation is like an animal only based on that both love each other without force..Human like that has no good moral in line with the religion..We should thank to God if we have happiness and we should be patient if we have sadness by try work hard for overcoming it.We can not be deppressed and desperate by making a suicide,because suicide is hated by GOd and he will go to hell.
You must introspect yourself whether your doings are in line with your true religion. that is my suggestion.

Answer 10

First of all, I would say that if your mother stole your boyfriend, you have more of a problem with her than you do of him. I've never heard of that.

Maybe you are not supposed to be with this boy. I can't judge you based on just the info you put here, but according to the picture your words paint of this boy, God may have a different guy in mind for you. One who treats you better. Maybe you needed to be in the hospital so that your boyfriend could have the oppertunity to leave you, so that you can find someone who treats you better.

It may not be what you want right now, but it may work out in your benefit in the end.