Give me your advice on this? PLEASE!?
Me and my boyfriend where kissing on his bed and he started getting all handsy and he put his hand on my (magic conch shell) and started rubbing and i moved his hand and he said sorry then we kept kissing then he started doing it again and I moved his hand and he said sorry babe then we started kissing and he did it again but when i tried to move his hand he wouldnt let me and he did it more then he stopped after like 2 minutes which felt like forever so whats this sound like to you?
why didnt he stop?
2007-01-30 16:40:15 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should have stopped kissing him after the second time he did it
maybe even the 1st if you were really that against it
2007-01-30 16:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have raised both a son and a daughter. They are both adults. At the appropriate time I gave each of them the following advise.
The great God created an almost perfect universe. The only exception that was made was that he gave men only enough blood to work one "head" at a time. When he becomes aroused there is not enough blood left in his body to properly work his brain.
It is, therefore, necessary for you (whether you are the male or the female) to know what you are going to do before the male's other head takes over and his brain stops functioning well. Each must be prepared to stop, if that is the decision, as difficult as that is for everyone.
If he is not prepared to follow through on that decision ... get another boy friend. Women do not appreciate just how easy it is for them to "get" a boyfriend.
Good luck!
2007-01-30 16:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Papucho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he didn't stop because somewhere men got this idea that women dont really want them to stop. They think if they keep going you'll eventually start to enjoy it and maybe continue it futher. My advice to you is to talk to him about it in a safe environment (not alone in your bedroom). Tell him how you felt when it happened and what you expect from him in the future. If that doesnt work or you are so upset by the incident just dump him. Its your call, but as a women i garuntee it wont be the last time you are in a position like that. You need to know your boundries and how to enforce them and make sure the other person knows your boundries as well.
2007-01-30 16:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Amy W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When any guy is put into this situation, he becomes horny. Honestly this will sound funny but the more you say stop the more he wants it. And im in no way saying this is your fault but you still laying there and kissing him didn't help. You two need to sit down and talk about what your ready for and willing to do. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable or that your not ready...things like that. If he can't understand that the he's an idiot.
2007-01-30 16:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like nothing, dont kiss him or engage in those acts if you are not willing to go all the way. The question is why did you want him to stop?? give him what he wants , if you cant better tell him you got nothing to offer so that he moves on
2007-01-30 23:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with fire. To put a guy in that position and expect him to behave himself, is just stupid. Yes he should have respected you and stopped. Then so should you have. You should have stopped the kissing and whatever you may have been doing. Removed yourself from the area and talked. Communication is key when you are dealing with someone.
2007-01-30 16:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by buttrcup1980 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a jerk. That's why he didn't stop. I would dump him. Be glad he didn't push himself further; think of that experience as a warning to end it with him. It may not stop where it did in the future. He's not interested in your comfort with him, he just wants what he wants and your feelings are expendable to him. It also sounds like he might have gotten off on making you uncomfortable - and if that's the case that's an even bigger problem. Either way, it sounds like your gut (by being worried about this) has told you what to do about it.
2007-01-30 16:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Cedar_2006 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
After looking at your profile and trying to be Dr Phil. I think you need to look outside the box. Quit settling for what ever. If you tell the jerk no, that means NO! Don't let him continue to get away with things you don like! Thats your fault!
2007-01-30 16:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by atcranes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause he's a boy! Now don't get me wrong if you really want this boy to calm himself you need to be STRAIGHT UP and let him know what it up! You have to always remember that us women are for more intelligent then some of these guys running around. Some guys feel like they are comfortable in the relationship and feel like we are too so then can take things too far, that is when we say hold up if you can't respect my boundries and what I am about then hit the curb because he doesn't respect you!
2007-01-30 16:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by mpmemory 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Guys are simply determine to try to advance the relationship stage as far it can go. Your boyfriend hope that if he keep trying, you would say yes, and after he has done it once, he will consider it the norm and will do it all the time you make out.
2007-01-30 16:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by flbtigger 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly he needs to know the limit.
You told him to stop, but he kept on doing it.
Hoever, you need to be very clear. And the fact that after the second offense you still made out with him (not to mention the 3rd and 4th times) sent mixed signals.
Again, he needs to stop when you say stop, but by continuing to tempt him by the making out could give him a deplorable excuse of him thinking "no means yes"
Think of guys like puppies, its obverused but true. We poop on your carpet you rub our nose in it and throw us outside. Don't tell him "no-touchy" then continue to rile up the sexual energy!
please understand I'm trying to give a little advise, not put any "blame" on you.
2007-01-30 16:48:19 · answer #11 · answered by daughters_a_wookie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋