I am in love with my boyfriend. ok.....
He told me 3 weeks ago he couldnt love anyone because of the past. So I broke up with him. I was heart broken,upset,hurt and ect...
I got drunk and messed with his good friend.
ok... he called me 2 weeks later begging me back and told me our breaking up hurt him and he realised he was in love with me. So we get back together. He tells me daily what I mean to him and he loves me. He spends every free time with me.
What should I do about the whole friend thing? Should I tell him..or what? It was a mistake! I wish I never did it..I was drunk. His friend and I both knew it was a mistake. I dunno I love my boyfriend so much I never loved anyone like this and I am scared to lose our love.
2007-01-30 16:29:20 · 14 answers · asked by mecula 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were hurt and you were drunk. None of these excuses from fooling around with his friend, but you also weren't with him at the time. So although it is awkward, it isn't like you cheated on him. The fact is that this revelation might just cause him to be screwed up big time on love all over again. I think in this case, you are better leaving this alone. But take care of that man that you love so much. You may also want to talk to his friend about this.
2007-01-30 16:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth...trust me I KNOW from personal experience, lying is going to just come back and bite you in the ***. What if his friend told some one and the news gets to your boyfriend. As much as the news is going to hurt him, it will make him look AND feel stupid if he hears it from someone else. Yes, you made a mistake but now you have to prove your self. It wont be easy but if he really loves you, he will forgive you or eventually take you back. As for his friend, understand that he is not a good friend to your man and if he respected either of you he would not have let it happen. I know this is hard and probably not the advise you want but trust me keeping a secret like that is so hard and you will always be worrying about someone finding out. Good luck. I hope it all works out for you two.
2007-01-31 00:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lizsette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reverse the situation, if he had messed around with one your good friends while he was drunk very soon after you temporarily broke up, would you want to know this information? Would this change how you feel about him? If he didn't tell you and someone else did, would you still want to be with him?
You have created a rather sticky situation here. If you tell him what happened, you are honest with him but you risk losing him. If you do not tell him, he may or may not ever find out about this, but if he does find out, he will likely be angry because you did not tell him about this and you will likely lose him. Either way its a gamble and it is really your call. Do you want to be honest or hope you don't get caught?
2007-01-31 00:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by msi_cord 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you & the friend agree that it was a mistake then I would just keep it secret. Just make sure it stays that way.
However, I think it will always bother you if your not honest with your b/f. Yes you run the risk of losing him, but you were broken up & hurting and drunk.
Your gonna have to go with your heart on this one.
Only you knows what you can live with or not.
I do wish you the best of luck though & I hope if you tell him that he understands & forgives you.We all make mistakes when we are hurting.
2007-01-31 00:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not open it up to him.If u really love him and by u telling him that u messed with his good friend, u will surely lose him again.Just keep mum about it.Its not like you knew what u were doing.And if his friend ever told him about what happened,just ask your b/f whether he trusts you or his friend.And u will probably feel disgusted whenever u see his friend.But u ain't got a choice.If this is the guy u want to be with, u got to make sacrifices.Remember this:You didn't do anything out of your own free will...
2007-01-31 00:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...DO NOT TELL HIM. It happened while you were not going together so you are not really guilty of cheating on him. So quit feeling guilty or insecure...is there anyone else that knows about the incident with his friend(if his friend is really is friend he won't and shouldn't say anything)
Usually when people want to clear the air by babbling out the truth it is to clear their own guilty conscience....nothing good can come from this...you will only make him feel bad for dumping on him...so just leave it alone...
2007-01-31 00:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ruth M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him he may not want you back. You slept with someone else way too soon. Being drunk is not a good excuse anymore. Take it to your grave and tell the friend not to say anything.
2007-01-31 00:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him and u know he loves u then u should tell him before someone else does if he finds out from someone else it will hurt him more then if u just told him yourself
2007-01-31 00:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by rockabill_queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him the truth before some one does, if he really
love you he will understand, but he need to know . other wise he
will be hurt to know that you have kept this for so long, you should
have told him before you got back with him.
2007-01-31 00:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is the kind of person who is forgiving and easily forgets ..go and tell him.if he is not then be prepared to be hurt and drunk again....life is what we makes it.gudluk
2007-01-31 00:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by tisya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋