In Laws Matters: how to stop me fm hating my mother in law? She can be very means on her words...?

Answer 1

u just have 2 accept her and be the bigger person

Answer 2

come on dear
Take a deep breath and think only two words
SO WHAT
see it generally happens when u love some body like ur child ur hubby , ur sis, ur real brother , ur mom and dad even if they are harsh on u , u will not be serious for them and start ultimately hating.
see u have to understand and make sure u behae in very normal way and try getting closure and near o her feelings. See she is also human being if she is having bad nature for u she may having some good things also for what she may be having proud. U make habit of just buttering on that good issues .
Devote some time with her when she really needs u and if in situation she is happy with u then share ur feelings to her ( try having tears in ur eyes as all womens are expert in that). Share her that u didnot like what she said.
Never give her wrong statements when ur in front of so many people . She will feel more bad and say u that u argue too much.
Practice having smile and say sweet words
U will win
God Bless
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Answer 3

I feel for you! I lucked out with my mother-in-law this time around but my ex- mother-in-law was a real pain in my behind!
She made my life miserable but one day I realized that I didn't have to let her do that to me.
I just found some guts and told her (in a very polite manor) "you really hurt my feelings when you say things like that".
And every time she said something terrible (or did something terrible) to me after that I said the same thing.
Eventually she learned to keep her opinions to herself. She still didn't like me very much and I never liked her but when you address the situation in front of people as soon as it happens and you are polite and matter of fact about it, there isn't much that a person can do, other than apologize.
Good luck to you!

Answer 4

How to stop you from hating your Mother-in-Law, which you say she has a mean tongue, to put it mildly, I have two daughters, and five sons-in-law, I cannot imagine me being mean to them even though sometimes as any couple they have their disagreements, and my sons or daughters try to make me see their point of view but, I have always minded my own business, when it came to that because if I meddle in their affairs the one who is going to be the loser is me, I want my kids to be happy and I love my grandchildren a lot so, if one of them complains I always try to appease them so their arguments get settled. In the case of your mother-in-law, it is hard to say what to do because the only solution to your problem is to have a talk with your husband and tell him to talk with his mother so you would not get offended by her anymore, if that does not work, have a long talk with her, and tell her right off she is going to cause problems between her and you, and that you do not want that because she is the woman that gave life to your husband and you do not want your husband to be caught in the middle of you, and her and then there would never be closure between her and her son. I hope that works if nothing else works ,move to another State so, you would not be near her. I hate to say that to you but, if it was me I would have done that a long time ago. Good Luck to you and I hope things will get better between you two.

Answer 5

Have you done something to anger her? You need to sit down and kindly tell her that her words are hurtful. If that doesn't change things distance youself from her. I spent 23 years in the same boat. My MIL didn't want me to be the more importnt female in hubby's life. I finally gave up and only saaw her when it was necessary. I always wanted to have a good relationship with her but she would never allow that to happen.

Answer 6

There is an old saying "Be careful of what you hate because that is what you become" If you are mean back, that makes you as bad as her. Be nice, tell her she is upsetting you and hurting your feelings and walk away. She will not have a res ponce to that. After all what can you say to someone you just told you that you hurt there feelings?

Answer 7

Your mother-in-law is going to be who she is. You can't change her, she needs to want to change herself.

You just need to be polite if you are visiting her. Be calm. If she is visiting you, be polite too. But if she is rude and mean to you, just tell her that you will not tolerate this in your home. If she continues, ask her to leave.

Otherwise, have your husband talk to her privately about how she is affecting you with her behavior. If he doesn't stick up for you, he is not a man, but a woosie.

Answer 8

i'm sorry to hear that. Here is the other side of the coin.
My mum in law, takes of INTO the kitchen every time we come, over on holiday, so it is NOT unusual that i gain at least 10kg not pounds, and every time my bottle of beer, you guessed it! also she runs a restaurant!! and is THE CHEF IN CHARGE! HER reason? suspect my wife is not feeding me proper!!
P.S. actually it's like mother like daughter!!

Answer 9

i think you should try your hardest to get along with her, maybe try to do things together, if you hate-her and treat her-bad, it will make your relationship bad, depending on how close she is to her son, you could even destroy a marriage, but if you try to make a effort to like her and make her like you, it could go the other way, depending how close mom is with son, this my make him happy that you to were getting along and it may bring you to closer,so it could be good or bad, its all up to you,make the right choice, good luck

Answer 10

STICKS AND STONES WILL BREAK YOUR BONES BUT WORDS CAN ONLY HURT IF YOU LET THEM....LynnA