My friends Daughter infested with Lice!! and she got cranky when I shampoo her daughter's hair.?

Question

I've been looking after her daughter,and told her that she had lice on her head, which she thank me for that, but the next wk again,her daughter keep scratching it, so I decided to ask the pharmacist about the right shampoo for her.so shampoo her after coming back home. when she picked her up, I told her that she still have the lice so I bought some shampoo because she was suffering from itchiness. and beside I have nieces on my place also and I dont want them to have one.
She left my place and I felt I done something wrong..after a Week, my other friends told me that she was cranky with me, and telling everyone that Im interfering their life. after 2 days she ask some favour again to look after her daughter..I really wanted to ask her why she got angry with me? DO I need to ask her or dont worry abt it? Pls help..

Answer 1

I will do the same thing, I think she need to appreciate the good things that you done to her. the concern and looking after her daughter.well as you said, she ask some favour, so means to say that she dont pay you at all.and buying lice shampoo will cost you a penny. Maybe she was the carrier.

If I were you, just ask her why she told your friends on the first place that she got cranky about what you done, and can be talk with both of you privately? and can be easily be fixed.

She doesnt have gratitudes of looking after her kid's, and then making you bad infront of your friends.what kinds of friends she is? If you dont worry about it..can you sleep straight by not cramming on your head? I belived that some questions need some answers...goodluck!!!

Answer 2

You did the right thing! It was very incosiderate of her for not taking care of the lice on her daughters scalp in the first place. Her first concern should be her daighters well being and not her pride. She shouldn't feel embarrassed her daughters lice infestation, but appreciative that you took the initiative to get rid of it...which is something she should have done in the first place. All kids in school usually have a case of head lice. her second concern should have also been to make sure the lice were not spread to your nieces. You are doing her a favor by watching her daughter. She should have at least had the decency to kill the lice before she sent her daughter back into your care. You did her an even bigger favor by ridding her daughter's scalp of a bug infestation. She should swallow her silly pride & realize you were only trying to help!

Answer 3

I worked previously with families and had to work primarily with children, under the age of 8.
What I found was that about 40% of the kids I dealt with had lice at some point.
What you need to understand, and your friend, is that lice is not a disease that targets 'certain' families. It can happen to anyone.
Kids contract lice from friends, at school, or sharing hats, brushes and hair accessories.
When dealing with lice, you can just let your friend know that it's her responsibility to maintain her child's treatment, by thoroughly going through her hair, every second day, and not only treating it with lice shampoo, but she can also use cheap conditioner, and by using a lice comb, she can glob a handful of conditioner in her child's hair, let it set for a couple of minutes, and then use the lice comb, and comb the entire head, scalp to tip, about three times, running it through her head, every two days, for two weeks, until the life cycle of the lice is broken. She may want to take some time and hand-pick the eggs from her daughter's head, too, to get rid of the remainders, left over.
However, from your friend's point of view, I would say she's just probably more embarrassed and feels a bit humilated that her daughter has this condition.
I wouldnt' worry about it, though. The treatment of the head lice is crucial, though. It needs to be dealt with, especially if her daughter is in school. She doesn't want to risk giving it to the other kids. NOTE: Lice do not hop, jump, or fly! They are quick lil' buggers who run from host to host, no matter who they are.
Maybe just let your friend know that you're just there to help her out, not make her feel worse. If she is still upset, then that's HER issues that she needs to deal with. Don't make her problems YOUR problems.
Just let it go. She'll understand, after some time, in realizing that you were only trying to help.

Answer 4

When it comes to lice shampoo remember that it is toxic and you really should have gotten permission first. The child may be scratching for many reasons and could have had a very sever reaction to the shampoo. This is something that the parent should take care of and not you. The mom really needs to find out what her daughter is scratching for. In the meantime as you suspect it is lice I would let her know that you will not babysit till you get a letter from the child's doctor ruling out lice.

Answer 5

Because you were "too good"
A good deed is never left unpunished.
You showed her up. She's the Mommy- she should have done it first, and done it right.... but she didn't.
You took the logical approach, you took care of business, and helped a child...
But you also showed Mommy she failed as a parent.
You can't win for losing, can you?

This is why she got angry at you.

I'd say, don't bring up the lice anymore. If she is still grumpy, give her a very simple, gentle, NOT OBVIOUS compliment on her parenting skills.

or

Make an positive observation about the child that only comes about due to good parenting skills- again don't' make it obvious.

Good luck- but don't let it stop you from helping others

Answer 6

Yes you do need to talk to her about this. Not only is it unhealthy for her daughter to keep lice for an extended period of time, she is putting your family at risk of getting it also. No child should have to walk around for days with lice and be miserable scratching when it is treatable. There was a little girl in my daughters class last year that had had lice so long that she had large sores on her head from scratching. You need to tell her that she didn't have any right getting angry with you, that you were only looking out for her daughter and your family. If she doesn't like it, she needs to find someone else to do her favors. And she owes you an apology.

Answer 7

If you friends daughter has head lice then there is a chance that she will infect the other children. You will need to inspect the heads of any child that she has come in contact with.If those children have them then they will need to be treated. You will also have to wash all of the towels, pillow cases , blankets, and clothes.Anything that cannot be washed will have to be put in A plastic bags and sealed for twenty-four hours. If one child has them they will continue to reinfect the other children
You should not allow your children to come in contact with this child until she has been treated. The lice will lay eggs on the hair . The eggs are called nits and they must also be removed from the hair.
For more information call your local health department. They are your best source for information.

Answer 8

She was probably embarrassed rather than angry with you. If by chance she was actually angry, then that's her issue, not yours.
Lice is a community problem and even the school refuses to let children attend if they are infested, sending them home until the nurse clears them with a magnifying lens.
Lice is very contagious. Make sure that you cleaned the bedding, stuffed toys and anywhere where there could have been contact by the girl.
I think it was really nice of you to shampoo her hair, and beyond that, to even agree to watch the girl knowing that she was infested.
Best not to bring up the subject with her unless you see a reinfestation, and boy would I be checking on a regular basis until I was sure that it was indeed gone for good.
Good luck!

Answer 9

You absolutely did the right thing!! I am a hairstylist, and we won't even service children/people with lice/nits. If I see any symptoms at all, I recommend clients straight to a dr., and before they get their hair cut, I ask to see the dr. note. Especially if these kids are in school, they are not permitted to return without a dr. note. This isn's like the child had allergies. She has a highly contagious bugs living on her head. I feel you were too nice to be honest. Too nice in that you put yourself and your family at risk. These are the people that you love. I won't even put other clients (mostly strangers to me) at risk. Also, this is not a problem that just goes away. By taking responsiblity of her child, you are assuming responsibilty for her safety, and lice are a medical issue. I would be a little hurt about her reaction to your noble actions when put in a strange situation. Also, word to the wise.... Lice dont' like dirty heads. If ever in a position, even with your nieces in school when lice are going around, spray the kid's heads with hairspray before sending them off to school.

Answer 10

I would bring it up, cause you need to know whether she was really angry or not. dont take someone else's word for it. she might have just been embarrased.

if she was angry with you, tell her that she has no right to be, as you had previously brought it to her attention and nothing was done about it. you have a job to protect yourself and your own family as you dont want the lice to spread. if she is offended that you did it, tell her you wont look after her daughter again until there is no lice left.